(Closed) Not many people coming to my wedding. Sad rant

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Have you called any of these people to make sure they are a def. no? I know I am trerrible about mailing things, so mabey a gentle ( or not so) kick in the rear is in order?

I am sorry that you are feeling so down ( internet hugs)

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Katielee:

I wouldn’t be surprised if you have more people attending that didn’t return the RSVP.  I would definitely check with the others that have not sent in the RSVP before you do anything else.  Your day will be lovely no matter what -because you and your Fiance will be married!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

yeah you should call them??? people are terrible at RSVP

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If today was the deadline, wait 3 or 4 days because a lot of folks may have just dropped them in the mail today. Give it a few days and then call all of those you didn’t hear from before canceling any vendors or making changes. Most importantly, the day will be great no matter what because you’re marrying your Fiance 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The exact same thing happened with my wedding. It’s disappointing, but it also helps bring you closer to those who really do care the most about you.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with the other bees. Some people are just not good about RSVP. Most of the time, for birthday parties (etc.), I find that they just show up. I would say give it a few days, and then call to ask.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I know it sucks, but like other people said, I would give it some time.  I had less than half rsvp by the date.  It took lots of calling and tracking down (annoying, I know), but a lot of eople ended up coming who were just too lazy to rsvp. Also, do you have a B list?  We ended up inviting a lot of people we thought we couldn’t at first because of the amount of no responses.  It’ll be ok!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Plus mail is kinda slow right now. Everyone’s orders over Thanksgiving weekend are shipping & it seems our mail is really delayed. Its possible that some people think the deadline is the day you mail the RSVP so I’d give it more time, unless you need to know for your vendors, I’d just wait about 2 weeks & then contact people.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

I am really BAD about RSVPing.  I honestly don’t mean to be, but I have a lot going on, and I set invites aside, and quickly forget all about sending it back.  Even if I plan on going.  Yes, I know it’s awful and annoying, so people don’t need to tell me how rude I am!  My point is, give them a call, they probably just forgot to send the reply back.  

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Don’t worry, all the most important people will be there…. at least the ones that can make it and truly care for you.  🙂  It’s not a show, it’s a celebration!  And even if it was just you and your fiance and a couple of cats, it shouldn’t take way from this special day.  More than likely people either misplaced the cards or forgot to send them in.  Sorry about the family members that couldn’t make it, I know that’s tough and can be a bit of a damper.

For our small 35 person wedding (if everyone comes), I think I’m only going to have 4 people from my side of the family.  Yes, FOUR!!  It sounds very very sad… but most of my family lives in another country and can’t make it (due to work, school, house obligations, and expense.)  I understand they’d like to be there and I would love to have them, but it’s still going to be a great day regardless.  Actually my biggest concern is that the church is going to look so very empty on my side – I hope people fill in more evenly and don’t stick to bride and groom seating! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hold your horses…you need to call everyone who you haven’t heard from yet. I know it seems weird, but almost every bride I know had to do this. People just don’t ever remember to rsvp on time. I for one..am guilty of doing just that. =/

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