(Closed) Not motivated…kinda sad

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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3567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh no!! I’m sure everything will find a way to work out! Honestly, if he’s not going into work until 3pm, I’d have him handling some of the stuff during the day while you are working. Good luck hun! 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

The website recommends e-filing which the site says can speed up the process when you go in to the court in person.  http://yorkcountypa.gov/courts-criminal-justice/court-courtrelated-offices/2012-03-05-10-55-29/marriage-licenses.html  I always recommend to go first thing in the morning or first thing after lunch.  You can also call ahead and ask the clerks when the slowest time of the day and week is.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@hiroshymatetrastar:  What part does your father need to fill out?  Unless you are underage, I don’t see any reason he needs to be there to fill out paperwork.  Penn law says only you and your FH need to be present in person to apply.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@hiroshymatetrastar:  Why can’t you get the information from your sister?  I am guessing that he is marrying you then based on the sample application I pulled.  That would be his title in the church/place of worship (i.e. deacon, pastor, etc…)  You should be able to ask someone in the church if it isn’t listed in the church bulletin or on the church website.  It sounds like he may refuse to marry you if he isn’t completely satisfied with the situation.  If that is the case, I’m sorry you can’t get someone else that isn’t so controlling to marry you.  Frown

http://www.buckscounty.org/government/rowofficers/registerofwills/PDF/BucksCountyMarriageApplication.pdf

If he isn’t marrying you, then the only info you need is his full name, residence (address), birthplace (city & state), and his occupation.  It’s not a test so if you get some of it slightly wrong, the clerk isn’t going to fail you and refuse to give you a license.  It’s merely for recording purposes so that a future researcher can trace your child back to you and from you to your dad through your marriage license.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hiroshymatetrastar:  can’tyou just ask your sis for the info? All we needed for parents info was name, place of birth and date of birth.  They said if we didn’t know the information then it was no big deal.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Occupation can merely be: banker, doctor, lawyer, businessman, farmer, mechanic.  It doesn’t have to be his specific title (unless he is the officiant and that has to be specific because only certain people are allowed to officiate marriages in Pennsylvania.)

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think you’re giving your dad too much power. It seems like you need the addresses, occupations, birth places and names of each of your and FI’s parents. You need maiden names of the moms.  Occupation could be “real estate” “homemaker” or “retired”.  Hope that helps.

Post # 14
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I just pulled the Bucks County application for reference as far as required information.  Did you try googling his name to see what kind of business he works in?  Do it like this “DadFirstName DadLastName and City”.  If I was really frustrated I would just make something up.  Sometimes states get ridiculous with these things.  It’s especially frustrating because you know all you need to put down for your mom is “homemaker” and nobody would ask any questions.

Florida makes it so much easier.  Bride and grooms names, birthdays, birth cities, and addresses.  Parents names, dates of birth, and borth cities.  That’s it.  Why do they need to know your parents’ occupations for you to get married?  I suspect it goes back generations so the State Clerk could inform your father that you were marrying the local farmer boy (hence the three day wait for the license to be valid.)

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Put ANY job you’ve known he’s held. For his residence if unknown, put a city and state. Use the best information you have without driving yourself crazy.  If you are old enough to marry according to your local laws, you do not need his permission so don’t act like you do.

 

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