(Closed) Not my ring, but a good one

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

well the rule behind the E ring is that … if you didnt marry he gets the ring back… if you have married you get to keep the ring

 

Maybe she doesnt have it maybe she pawned it … gold is going for a pretty penny right now lol

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Legally, it just depends what state you’re in. For some states, it’s considered a gift at proposal, so if you call of the engagement, she can keep it.  In others, it’s a condition on a promise to get married, so if you don’t get married, he gets the ring back.  It seems like your husband probably did some research about getting a lawyer, so hopefully you’re in one of the states that will let him get it back!  (Glad to see that my legal education can come in handy! haha)

Socially though, I think that if you don’t get married then you should give the ring back.  I feel like that’s proper.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i kept the ring from my son’s dad.  he and i agreed that it would be passed on to my son’s fiance as her something blue (blue emerald cut sapphire).  it is at my mom’s house in her jewelry box.

with my other ex, i gave him the ring back and haven’t thought twice about it!! i didn’t want that bad karma lol

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Lots of women keep the ring.  I wouldn’t want a ring from a broken engagement, but some do.

How did their engagement end?  Was she cheating on him, or something?  Sounds like there’s a lot of animosity and drama– must be, if he’s been chasing after this ring for six years!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you don’t mind me asking, why does he want it back from her?

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This is totally not legal, but I’ve heard that if he breaks it off, she keeps the ring to sell. If she breaks it off, it’s proper to give it back.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

KMSull, that’s what I’ve always heard too – if she breaks it off, she gives it back, otherwise she can keep it if she pleases. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

In some states, it does matter who breaks it off, but other states are no fault states.  All laws regarding marriage are really state-specific so it’s hard to let you know whether you’re right or not.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

good job boston bee:)

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Some states it’s also conditional in how he proposed.  If it’s done on Christmas, your birthday, or another traditional gift giving holiday like Valentines Day…. he can’t ask for it back.

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