(Closed) “Not-Normal” or Newlywed Thanksgivings – how were they?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We spent it with friends and it was 1000% more fun than spending it with family. Yay for no drama!!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

My husband and I spent Thanksgiving together, just the two of us, and we LOVED it.  We didn’t have to travel anywhere, we made anything and everything that we wanted, and we had TONS of leftovers that we’ve been munching on for days (turkey enchiladas anyone??).  It was super relaxed and romantic and fun–I highly recommend!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@mrsmdphd: We have been having turkey quesadillas and turkey noodle soup. Tonight it is going to be turkey club sandwhiches. This is the best part of Thanksgiving!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We actually had the same Thanksgiving I’ve had my whole life – just my immediate family (plus the husband for the past few years) at home. The past few years, though, we have been able to have two meals – one with his family and one with mine. His family went out of town this year, though, so it was nice for me to kinda go back to normal and spend the whole day at my parents’ house. Having only the one meal, though, meant we ended up with way less leftovers than I would have liked.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was nervous my mom would feel left out of the thanksgiving festivities, but she didn’t! The wine was plentiful enough to make everybody friendly.

I’m glad they let me take one of the turkey carcasses, though! i made some delicious smelling stock and I can’t wait to use it!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ahh! It was stressful for sure! My family started their Thanksgiving earlier so we could be more a part of it, so we drove an hour out to see them then had to drive another hour to go spend the rest of the night with his family. I wish it didn’t have to be like that – I hardly ever get to see my family so I was really bummed when we had to leave early to go to his parents’ house who we see multiple times a week because they live 5 minutes away. I told him it would be very considerate of his family to understand that we don’t get to spend much time with my side at all and that it would be nice to enjoy a full Thanksgiving with them in the future – not sure how that will go over with the Mother-In-Law though.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I hosted my in-laws, Brother-In-Law and a friend (along with Darling Husband and puppy) on Saturday for a belated Thanksgiving.  It went great.  I was cooking ALL day and really enjoyed it.  Everything I made came out just the way I wanted and I think everyone enjoyed themselves.  I know I did!

Hopefully next year we can go home to CT so Darling Husband can see how Thanksgiving is REALLY done…but our little version was very nice…

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It was a lot of running around, but it wasn’t too bad. We had dinner at his mom’s house, dessert at my mom and dad’s house, and then went home and went to bed! Darling Husband had to work on Friday, I got up and did Black Friday shopping with mom, then we headed north to my parents’ place in the mountains to chop down a christmas tree!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@bloodgo1: I am in a similar position to you. My family will always have to do their thanksgiving on the Sunday of the Canadian weekend as my cousin (who hosts) works for an American company and does not get the Canadian thanksgiving Monday off.

I let DHs mother know this, but it apparently only worked for her to also do it on the Sunday. It wasn’t fun trying to do two families in one afternoon/evening when they are at opposite ends of the city. I think if it happens again next year, I may have to discuss with Darling Husband that we will do Thanksgiving with my family and Easter with his. But I also fear MILs response.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

It started out horrific.  Our plan was FI’s mom for breakfast (family tradition) then my sisters for 12 and then FI’s family to our house for 5pm. We do this schedule every year and we just run around like crazy and all I think about is all the cooking that I have to do between 3 and 5.

This year though everything changed. FI’s mother decided to start screaming at me at breakfast about the seating chart. I eventually walked out. We went to my sisters but then cancelled the 5 o’clock dinner. It was depressing.

However, on Saturday I decided to have a Thanksgiving Re-do. Fiance and I cooked everything that I had planned to and we invited his brother over. It was awesome and declicous. We are now talking about making it our family tradition so that Thanksgiving is so rushed.

FI’s Mom came over last night and the fighting is over. So that’s a plus now too.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My side of the family came to our place for Thanksgiving this year.  I was stressful, but fun.  This is the first time we have had a place big enough to hold either of our families, so it was nice to host this year for a change.  But next year we go to FI’s family, and I will enjoy NOT having to cook so much!  

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@bloodgo1: Hve you considered having Thanksgiving at your family’s and Christmas at his, then alternating the next year?

The easiest thing after you have children is to stay home and invite family to come to your place.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We spent Thanksgiving with my family, which made me feel terrible because it left his mom all alone.  She is widowed and has 3 kids.  Her oldest son is living in Europe, so he could not make it back for Thanksgiving.  Her daughter decided to go out of state with her boyfriend’s family for Thanksgiving.  My husband, her younger son, had planned to spend Thanksgiving with my family.  As soon as we heard that she was going to be all alone, we invited his mother over to my parents’ house but she declined.

I do not know what we will do next year, but if it means just me him and his mom having Thanksgiving dinner together that works for me.  I hated how it worked out this year.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ours was relativly crappy.   We had dinner together at my aunt’s house, but then Darling Husband & his children left around 7 to drive down to GA for the weekend to have Thanksgiving with his family, while my daughter & I stayed here for the weekend by ourselves, because I had to work on Friday.   Both of our immediate families are out of state, but his are only a 4 hr drive away, while mine are a 10-11 hr drive away.  I’ve not had Thanksgiving with my family in 11 years now.   He hasn’t missed one with his family ever.   I kind of felt like he should just spend the holiday here with us & our new family, but he wasn’t up for it.  

For Christmas, both his parents & mine are coming to our place, so we’ll all celebrate together.  Much much better.  

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