(Closed) Not opening gifts at a bridal shower?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I say you don’t have to.  I didn’t have a wedding shower, but I’m not planning on opening my gifts at my upcoming baby shower. 

Post # 17
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think this depends on your family and crowd.  I know a lot of people are pushing away from the typical shower and now ask for unwrapped gifts and then they just get put out on a table so everyone can see what the bride got.  I would have loved this for my shower, because like you, I hate the attention on me.

However, my family would have had a FIT if I did not open presents.  Especially the older generations.  So, since they spent a lot of time and money picking out just the right gift for me and taking the time to attend my shower and celebrate me, the least I could do was suck it up and open the gifts.  So I did.  And while I was pretty much sweating and nervous and hating it the entire time, everyone loved the shower, had a great time, and I kept the peace.

So… you do have other options but you have to know your crowd.  If not opening gifts is a crime in your family, then I suggest just doing it.

Post # 18
3114 posts
Sugar bee

In some cultures or areas of the country, they don’t open gifts at a shower.  SO and I attended a baby shower last year and were surprised when none of the gifts were opened as part of the festivities.  It was the first time I had encountered this, but I didn’t think it was strange or rude.  

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