Post # 1
Fiance and I paid for my two bridesmaids and my maiden of honor’s dresses. I figured it was expected? I couldn’t imagine having them shell out $$$ for a dress just because I asked them to be a part of our wedding. Is this weird?! I have read a few posts lately that mentioned them paying for their own dresses, and it just made me curious about the rest of you bees.
Oh, but I am having them pay for their shoes, accessories (if they choose any), hair (up-do is a must!), and makeup. This is where I am letting them show off their personal style. So who paid for yours?
Post # 3
Bm paying for their own dresses is the norm here. My girls are paying for their own dresses.
Post # 4
I’ve always paid for my own dress. I’ve never had to buy special shoes and was never forced to get hair/makeup done. I usually do my own makeup (I’m pretty good at it) and I get my hair done and pay for it myself – wish the bride would pay for hair and makeup, though!
Post # 5
I had a Destination Wedding, so no way was I having them pay for a dress as well as everything else. That way I also got to dictate 100% what they wear 😛 and could avoid all the BS about them “not wanting to buy that casue they don’t like it or they don’t think they look good in it.”
As I know typically in the US BMs pay, in the UK the bride pays.
Post # 6
It is generally accepted that BMs pay for their dresses but the bride pays for hair and makeup. Since you seem to have inverted them, I think what you did is reasonable.
Post # 7
i paid for my bridesmaid dress in my friends wedding.. but for our wedding im probably going to help pay for my bridesmaids dresses because they are our sisters, who are a bit younger and dont have fulltime jobs/much income
Post # 8
Same here. I only have two girls and I paid about $150 for the dresses they requested. They will probably do the same for me.
Post # 9
5 of mine paid for their dress. I paid for one. I am paying for all their makeup. I am not requiring them to have their hair professionally done. I’m also not requiring specific shoes.
Post # 10
I have been a bm in four weddings and paid for my dress each time. My gals are paying for their dresses (except for my future sis-in-law, who is a college student and I paid for hers secretly) but I tried to make sure they were affordable. I am paying to have their hair done, and jewelry/accessories.
Post # 11
I have paid for my own. Originally the girls were paying for theirs but they ordered them online and got horrendous and ugly dresses that didn’t even fit. After this disaster, I paid for new dresses (might I add, it was 9 weeks to the effing wedding) because 2 of them travelled to get there and my sister had just had her wedding and was kind of short on extra cash. Even though it wasn’t my fault that the dresses were horrendous, I didn’t like the idea of them all having to pay again. One came from a different province and the other from Australia. I figured it was the least I could do.
Post # 12
My BMs paid for their own dress, but we chose one that was relatively inexpensive because I couldn’t imagine asking them to pay a ton of money for a yellow dress that they will likely never wear again. I’m not mandating specific shoes, accessories, hair or makeup. They’re free to do their own thing in that arena.
Since I’m not asking for their makeup or hair to be a specific way and I don’t care if they do it themselves, I’m not paying for it to be done professionally. I would rather buy them really nice gifts to show my appreciation.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t have paid for my BM’s dresses, but I returned my wedding dress and only got store credit. I only told them a color and knee length, they picked their dresses, and they have all worn them again. I wouldn’t/didn’t expect my BM’s to have to get their hair done/makeup.
Post # 14
I wasn’t very clear on my post..kind of sounded like I was dictating hair and makeup, huh?
I have three hair stylists in my family (free!), and they all want to help…so they will probably be fighting over the girls’ heads – haha! Not requiring any “specific” shoes. This is where their personal style will come in. As far as accessories (also not required), necklaces won’t work with the neckline of their dresses. This just leaves maybe a bracelet and earrings?? I’m thinking about their gifts being some nice matching earrings?? I have found a ton of them that I love!
Post # 15
I paid for two of my bridesmaids’ dresses. The other two girls are paying for their own. I’m paying for hair for all of them and makeup for two as well. I was a bm once and I paid for my own dress. That’s pretty much the norm in the States.
Post # 16
I always paid for my Bridesmaid dress.
Mine are paying for theirs but for nothing else — all they had to do was buy their dress and show up, everything else is on me.