Post # 1
Is it wrong to pick bridesmaids based on who actually wants to be one? One is my sister, my fiance sister and a close friend. My friend and fiance sister doesn’t appear to want to be one as they are self conscious about their body. I feel like I’m forcing them. Is it okay to repick my bridesmaid and pick girls that I know would love to be a bridesmaid rather than force those I’m close with to be my bridesmaid?
This topic was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by beetobee255.
Post # 2
I would ask those closest to you, but let them know you won’t be upset if they can’t accept. It’s your wedding! If they’re close to you, I can’t imagine them passing it up, especially if you let them wear something they feel comfortable in. I know I’d be upset if I found out I was passed up for bridesmaid because they thought someone wanted it more. Wanting to be a bridesmaid isn’t a good reason to pick someone.
Post # 3
Have you already asked them? If you have, game over. You cant “rechoose”. If you havent, i wouldnt even tell the original girls, i would just pick who I WANT to be a bridesmaid… No need for an explanation.
Post # 4
HonoraryNerd: As of right now they are my current bridesmaids. However they dont seem to excited about it. I’m having a summer wedding and both of which want to be covered as much as possible, which means a long dresd and sleeves if possible.
Post # 5
If you have already asked them it would be really difficult to replace them with other people. You might just have to manage with the girls you have, after all no one is perfect. If they are really close to you, whatever they wear shouldn’t matter too much as long as they support you all the way up to the big day.
Post # 6
beetobee255: If you’ve already asked them, I don’t think you can re-pick. I know some women on here have asked BMs to step down, but there is no polite and non-hurtful way to do it. You can double check with them if they really want to do it, and if they say they’d rather not, then that’s fine, but otherwise, you’re stuck. Show them the dresses you want, explain why you want them, and ask them if they’re okay with it.