Post # 1
FH and I have been talking A LOT about babies and baby names (we have names pretty much all picked out) but are going to try and wait till after the wedding!! The only problem with all this baby talk is he said he wants to know what the baby is before hand….. I do not and I told him why (you know one of the few very special surprises in life that may or may not ever happen to us again). I told him he can find out but if he were to let it slip, I would never let him forget it!! Any expectant moms or new moms have this problem?!
Post # 3
we are having the opposite problem… we are not going to be trying for several years but obviously talked about. he is completely against knowing while i would much rather like to know. i am not very maternal or one of those girls DYING for a baby. i never have been and just hope that someday i will get there. to me, knowing what i am having would just take a lot of stress off me. i would love to decorate the nursery not so “gender neutral” and i loooove picking out cute clothes, not neutral onesies. i dont think i will ever get him to change his mind on this though so we will see what happens when we get there.
Post # 4
Yeah, N and I have the same problem, although I want to figure out the gender prior to, and he doesn’t. I think in this case I’ll win, just because he’s more forgiving than I am, but I can see how it would hard!
Post # 5
I wanted to know and Mr. DG didn’t, but we finally decided to both know. We had a chromosome scare, and it became important for bonding for me to know. I knew it would be really hard for me to keep a secret, so we decided we’d both find out 🙂
Post # 6
Hubby and I both want to find out but none of his family thinks we should. His mom had a child born stillborn and they said it was harder because they knew it was a girl, had things bought and decorated. They’re in the camp that we should wait and do everything once the baby is born just in case but I’m far too much of a planner for that.
Post # 7
@LpCutiPie: This is the exact reason why I don’t want to find out. I would be too scared it would be even harder if something had happened.
Also, a lot of the stuff you buy should be gender neutral if you are having more than 1 kid. You will still get TONS of stuff that is pink or blue after the baby is born.
Post # 8
@LpCutiPie: I had an Angel Baby (stillborn baby), Moose. For Moose, we never found out boy/girl and I’m so thankful we didn’t. It’s hard either way, but knowing would’ve made my little air guitar, roof raising, love to make Mommie sick Moosey into the boy or girl name we chose. Now, Moose will always be Moose and we will always remember the happy memories and try to hold those closest. We never went into the pregnancy even thinking about that; it’s just what we wanted to do. We wanted the BIG surprise, but I think you should do what you want and don’t tourture yourself with thinking about his Mom’s Angel Baby. Also, don’t let people constantly remind you of what could happen. It’s important to enjoy yourself in pregnancy because it’s hard.
I love you Moose!
Post # 9
This has been an ongoing thing during our pregnancy. First, I didn’t want to know and he did. Then we both switched. We’ve made it through 3 ultrasounds and 19 weeks and we don’t know (after yesterday’s ultrasound we have a hunch, though). A few thoughts… People get really upset that you’re not finding out. It’s as if you’re telling them that they can’t find out what their baby is. I find it a little entertaining. And, second, I heard a great idea the other day that was new to me. A co-worker had a friend who had a reveal party. At their ultrasound they had the tech write down the baby’s sex and seal it up. Then they went to a bakery and had a cake made that was yellow on the outside with a bunch of question marks. They told the baker to make the inside either pink or blue, depending on what was in the envelope. At the party (I’m assuming with close friends/family) they cut the cake and it was a surprise for everyone. I thought that was a really fun idea.
Post # 10
I’m not expecting but I really really really would want to know. Fiance says he wouldn’t. So I’ll know and he won’t 🙂 Plus I’m one of those people who like gender neutral colors so it isn’t an issue if I purchase something.
Post # 11
@candicemcc: That is a really cute way to do a reveal!!
Post # 12
@candicemcc: I love that idea!