Post # 1
I’m truly just so sad today. My husband and I were TTC. He’s in the army, deploying next month for a year. I was hoping to get an early start on a family, but got my period yesterday. Not a, “there’s still hope” kind of bleeding, but an actual heavy flow. And we can’t even try again next month before he leaves, because we are still a LDR. I cried to him so badly on the phone yesterday, apologizing, and just so disappointed. Every time I see him, we’ve tried, making this our fourth time within 6 months. I’m just sad 🙁
Post # 3
I’m sorry you are going through this. I know exactly how you feel, it is so so hard. I wish I could say it gets easier but AF showing is always pretty hard to take. I can’t imagine having to put TTC on hold for a year because DH wouldn’t be around. That is hard! Hope things get a little easier for you!
Post # 4
@Christina0828: I’m sorry 🙁 I’m sure the pressure that you are feeling to conceive during the few times that you get to spend time with him isn’t helping things. Will he have any leave during his year on tour?
Post # 5
@Christina0828: I am sorry for your disapointment, it is hard when duty takes away the amount of time you need to conceive. Chin up for now and know that it will happen when the time is right, unfortunatly the ‘right time’ doesn’t always happen when we want it.
Post # 6
(((HUGS))) I am so sorry, girl! I know how difficult it is. It sucks big time! I wish I could tell you “well, you always got next cycle” but he is leaving next month. When is he actually leaving? You might still be able to hit your next FW if you have a 28 day cycle. Wish you the best and thank your husband, for me, for protecting our country 🙂 GL and best wishes!
Post # 7
Do you really want to spend your whole pregnancy without him? I wouldn’t! Consider it a blessing in disguise!
Post # 8
Hugs! I’m so sorry. I can’t even imagine how frustrating that will be.
Post # 9
That is such a bummer. I am so sorry. We’re trying too but my DH isn’t leaving me for a year. I can’t imagine how awful that feels. Hang in there. Stay close to as much family and friends as you can for the next year. You will need them more than anything!
Post # 10
If he deploys for a year, would he have been able to come home for the birth of a child? Maybe this is the universe arranging things so that the two of you get to experience everything about your first pregnancy together.
Post # 11
Thank you alllll for commenting! It truly is so difficult. I wouldn’t feel as bad if we weren’t a LDR, but we are and it sucks. This was our last chance until next year.
@PermaStudent: He can take 2 weeks about 6 months in. So if we are emotionally still ready by then, we can try, or just wait the full year and wait until we are living together.
@solidarity: DH and I spoke about this. And we both were 100% OK with him not being there. We discussed pictures, and videos of my growing belly, and sonograms, etc. We were willing to lose all that, take the risk, for him to come home to a family. And the fact that we were really trying, I don’t look at it like as a blessing in disguise. 🙁
@cmbr: Yea I try to be optimistic, but my sadness and grief is just too overwhelming. We truly wanted this so bad.
HUGS TO ALL YOU BEES!