- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
This is my first post. Sorry for what I know will be a long winded question. I am writing it becaue I am feeling a bit perplexed… I am an alcoholic and on my wedding day will have been sober for just over 5 years, God willing. Not trying to get too personal, but I would never have found an awesome man to call my own had I not changed my life, and feel this is important information to share before posing my question (so you don’t all think I am a cheap skate).
My fiance and I have decided that we WILL NOT provide people with alcohol at our wedding and extensively researched options. I have drafted the following for my wedding website and plan on posting it soon:
Let me start by saying that we love you all so very much and are excited to have you at our wedding!!!! If you are coming to our wedding, chances are you know that Dan and I no longer partake in the consumption of alcoholic beverages.
While we have no objections to what other people do, we simply did not want to buy alcohol on our special day. We would rather reallocate those funds for forms of entertainment we enjoy. We are hoping that you will understand this because we still want to have an amazing time! We are still providing the customary DJ, but instead of accompanying him with alcohol, we are providing; a tour of Luray Caverns, A Mariachi Band, and a photo booth! We will also be doing toasts with sparkling cider.
We didn’t want to leave you all completely hanging out to dry (pun intended) so we researched the “pay-bar” options and got some great news from our venue! Instead of scheduling a pay-bar that charges 5-7$ a beverage, we have permission from our reception venue for people to bring their own adult beverages. So please feel free to bring your own adult beverages for the party, show up with a cooler if you wish…just keep it fun and don’t get arrested after the lights go out.
We had originally planned to spread BYOB word of mouth, but sadly we live in a society where alcohol is expected and I want to set the expectations straight… I have gotten more than a few raised eyebrows sharing the news. I don’t want everyone to leave right after dinner due to their disappointment in what they thought was a wedding custom (adult beverages). It just seems most are incapable of having the amount of fun I have naturally if they don’t alter their mental state to “Forest Gump: levels (although I am fairly certain he’d be chill with BYOB).
We are getting married in a cave, it will be a really down to earth fun wedding (without free booze)! So my question…am I completely wrong? It is my fiance and I’s special day. Is it wrong to want to spend money on fun reception activites that we’d appreciate instead of providing booze for others even though it would make me uncomfortable? I don’t like watch people get drunk.
Thank you in advance for any feedback! I respect all opinons, just please keep it kind/PG!
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