(Closed) Not quite on the same page as SO about rings.

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1359 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Why does he care what you wear on your finger? It’s kind of weird that he’s forcing his aesthetic on you …

Post # 4
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The only idea I can think of is that maybe he doesn’t have a clear understanding of how much this means to you.  Gently, kindly, and firmly tell him exactly how you feel.  To use some of your words from above, say something like the following:

“I really do feel that the band is good enough for me. I planned on having it as my wedding band from the start. I love you to pieces and I don’t want you to think that I’m unhappy with what you want to do.  I’ll be fine without an engagement ring and just wear the band if it would make you happy.

However, I know that this sounds fickle, but I really wanted to have an engagement ring on my finger.  [Maybe explain some specific reasons why.]

I don’t know whether or not I should just drop my hope of setting my blue moissanite into a ring or if I should stick to it. It’s a very silly problem to have, but it’s been weighing on my mind for weeks now.”

Honestly, although I, too, love my fiance to pieces and would compromise on a ring if i had to, having a ring is very important to me.  I am proud to wear it and it makes me happy every time I look at it.  Marriage is a BIG DEAL, and there is no reason that you shouldn’t have a special ring that you love to symbolize it!  Best of luck to you.

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