Post # 1
First and foremost sorry for so many questions about dress shopping. I am slightly terrified!
I’m a street size 10/12 and 5’3″ not quite plus size, but as far as bridal goes I would probably be considered plus size. My question is how was your experience dress shopping? Will I be able to find some dresses to try on for my body shape/size? Or will it be a traumatizing experience where I end up crying because I hate how everything fits.
I’m extremely self-conscious because I used to be 260lbs back in 2009. I successfully got down to 150 but when my dad tragically passed away I packed on some pounds back to 184 but currently losing and at around 172.
I would love a dropped waist or mermaid dress (but I carry some weight in my mid section l, but I will be getting a tummy tuck in the next few weeks, hard work reward for losing so much weight) but I’m just so terrified nothing will fit so I can’t even imagine what a dress would look like on me in my size.
can anyone shed some light with their experience? Thanks!
Post # 2
I am taller than you, but also probably a 10/12 …when I went, I was expecting to slip into all the dresses and have the row of chip clips going up the back to keep the dresses on (like “Say Yes to the Dress”) …the reality – I looked like a busted can of biscuits and had bungie cords holding alot of the dress together with my fat pouring out all over, and extra panels of fabric stuffed in…LOL …the good news – I DID find a dress…the one and only day I looked…so, lesson of the day – keep your expectations low with and keep an open mind! 🙂
My dress was a fit and flare and looked FANTASTIC! I never thought I would be able to pull off the look, but it really looked great!
Post # 3
Im 5’5 and was close to 170 when I went dress shopping. I too thought I would be able to easily fit into all the dresses. Imagine my surprise when a size 12 wouldnt zip on me lol. All I can say is try not to stress if the back of the dresses do not close. They will add a panel so you can see what the dress will look like in your size. Also be wary of being swayed into liking a dress coz it actually zips! I tried on a size 18 and I thought it was the greatest dress ever coz it actually fit lol. If you find a dress you love but are uneasy because it doesnt zip just think about how much better it will look once you get it in your size! I can’t stress that enough.
I purchased a fit and flare even though Ithought I HAD to get an A-line because I have some tummy. Just be open to trying other styles, you might be surprised by what looks great on you! I sure was. Have fun!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
I’m 5’10” and a UK 12/14 at the moment which is verging on plus sized for my bum lol 🙂
I had no issues – the salon I got my dress from carried Bridal size 12 as standard. I went to another one that carried the same dress in a size 2 – that was ridiculous (still tried it on though haha)
I found that it very much depends on the store – go somewhere that is recommended by someone you trust. I went to the shop my Mum got her dress from when she married my Step-Dad and they treated me like family. The other shop I went to was near my friend and the only Bridal shop in the town. Full of stuck up twig b*tches who looked at me like I had two heads. Found out later that they don’t get great reviews (I can see why!)
My tips are to wear your favourite underwear (mine is turquoise in the first pic, white in the second and black in the third. None of the bras were strapless so trust me when I say it doesn’t matter!) and take a couple of people whose opinion you trust. I took my Mum the first time and my 2 best friends the second. I got honest opinions from all 3 without feeling like I was being bossed about.
Wedding Dresses are, IMO, magic so make sure to try stuff on you wouldn’t usually try and above all – enjoy yourself!! <3
Here are some pics for reference 🙂 I weigh around 180lbs in all 3 pics
A dress that fits:
The size 2 (I’m clipped in and no petticoat)
My dress that’s was ordered for me (Mori Lee size 12 for reference)
Post # 5
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
In some ways, I’m like you… when I went shopping I was around a 10ish street size (which depending on the designer and cut of the wedding dress can be a 12/14). It’s not plus size but it’s not “skinny” either. And I can sometimes wear a petite/short too. I work out at lot so I have muscular thighs and shoulders, but still have a tummy.
I was very hourglassy at 5’5″ and was 155 I think with 36DD? Shortly before the wedding I stopped looking at the scale and went on look and feel (do I look and feel happy). But I was 170 a few years back. Probably could have been 150 or a tad lower on our wedding day.
The experience was fine and I never felt like they were treating the consult as a “plus size experience” and believe me I went to several boutiques (and David’s) a few times to go through everything. You need to realistically know if you’re going to loose X weight or not. And it’s fine if that’s a no.. but that will help your consultant know which dresses may be an option and which are limited in sizes. Full ballgowns CAN work- it’s ALL about where it hits you on your waist. With my long torso drop waist didn’t do much unless it had a belt. I did try one ballgown that hit MY true waist and made me look tiny. It was my #2 favorite. But like PP said, bring your favorite undergarments to help smooth those lines.
I lucked out in that the dress I bought was a sample dress at the store that was being discontinued. I don’t remember what the size was because I made my alterations person cut it out. That tag wasn’t going to determine how I felt in that dress or how I ended up altering it to my hourglass figure. When I got married I was (am) a street 8 with 34DD. I got a fit and flare dress with tulling under the “flare”. Since the bottom and through the thighs were “soft” as far as alterations I feel like it didn’t excentuate anything. Some girls get their fittings so tight that it makes their tummies and legs look bigger. Mermaids can REALLY do this if you’re not careful. But fit and flares are better for that soft feminine look- so it’s totally an option for you still. Also- keep in mind that corsetts can be your friend if weight is changing.
This was the dress at the salon when I picked my veil and belt.. the dress looks a bit frumpy as it was big on me and they didn’t want to clip me in to make it fit (due to they didn’t want to damage the dress since it was already purchased).
Alterations took a lot in at the waist and added special cups (the dress already had some) to fit the top- which actually kept my dress up since there were so straps and very light boning. No metal/thick plastic boning in the dress- just light plastic.
Just be comfortable and happy-your confidence in yourself in that dress is what people remember most.
Post # 6
Don’t worry! You’ll be surprised how great you look in a wonderfully structured wedding gown. It’s so different from a normal dress. I’m also street size 10/12 (more like 10 up top and 12 on the bottom), 5’6″, and carry my weight in my tummy along with my wide hips. Plus I have loose skin from weight loss so I too was nervous about how awful I’d look in most of the styles out there. Turns out I had no reason to be nervous and the experience was great. Now, I did go to David’s Bridal so am now sure how a traditional bridal salon would be, but the consultant I had never made a single weight- or size-related comment. They also had plenty of dresses in my size. I had a great experience and I’m sure you will too!
I was torn between two dresses but wound up with a drop waist ballgown. I felt great in the lace dress but just couldn’t justify the price tag when the dress I wound up buying was only $99!
And my dress: