(Closed) Not quite sure what to do….

posted 6 years ago in Home
  • poll: Should I do it?
    Yes -- There's plenty of time : (18 votes)
    53 %
    No -- It's too close : (11 votes)
    32 %
    Yes and No.. Here's my opinion (Please leave a comment) : (5 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Why not have it after her wedding? That gives you a month to move in and get comfortable and settled and she’ll be able to attend without worrying about stress from her wedding.

    Post # 4
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I really think, especially if it’s 2-3 weeks before her wedding that it would be fine.  In my mind it sounds like it could even be a nice chance for her to take a break from wedding-related things, but that doesn’t mean she would see it that way.  I think I remember that you guys were able to reach a compromise about the dress you’ll be wearing at her wedding.  Maybe you can sort something out with this, too?

    Either way, it’s very exciting that your house is almost done!!!  Building your own house just sounds awesome!  Congratulations and I hope the housewarming party goes well! 🙂

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    i would try to do it after the wedding. But it really depends on our family. how close are you? do u get together often for family get togethers? you might want to wait untl after all the wedding hoopla.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Speaking from lots and lots of experience, housing construction rarely gets done when the contractor says it will. I would plan on moving in at least 1-2 weeks late because of “last minute issues” or inability to stick to the original timeline. Therefore, for your sanity and your sisters, I would plan to have the housewarming after the wedding.

    *Unless the contractor says the house will be ready mid-June and you have planned for a July 2 move-in. Then you may be able to stick with your original plan of having the housewarming 1-2 weeks after move-in.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Are you going to be ready for a housewarming in 3 weeks- having everything packed/house set up/pictures hung up, etc.? You could try for labor day weekend- give yourself a little more time. I think you’re ok with the timing around her wedding, but I think it’s ambitious to think the house will be ready by then.

    Post # 9
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I would do it after. Moving is stressful and takes a long time to get adjusted. 

    Post # 10
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    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think that there is time, but your family / others that are involved in your sisters parties may feel like its a lot at once. To avoid guests ( including your sister) not coming I suggest just waiting so that you can enjoy the whole spotlight without stepping on any toes. 

    Post # 11
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Do it later in the summer.  There’s no way you’ll be unpacked, cleaned up and ready for guests on the timeline you’ve planned, unless you don’t have to work.

    Post # 14
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    415 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My immediate reaction was to wait, and I’m not a picky bride-to-be at all.  I know you’ll want to celebrate such a huge event, but is it worth possibly hurting your sister’s feelings and/or leaving her out of the party?  I just tend to err on the safe side when it comes to stuff like that.

    If you’re worried about party planning while wedding planning, why not plan it out now but have it later?  It doesn’t sound like the type of event that will take too much of your resources.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Do I think that it is against “wedding ethics” to have your house warming a couple weeks before your sister’s wedding? Absolutely not. If it were me would I wait until after the wedding? Absolutely.

    I’m in the process of moving and I have to say that unpacking and getting settled in is taking WAY longer than I anticipated. My fiance and I both work full time so it’s taking us a longer time to get everything done and we haven’t even gotten to things like pictures, curtains, decorating, etc. So purely for your sake I’d say to give yourself some extra time. Your FH has to deal with the same crowd sooner or later and I think it would be less stressfull for everyone involved if it was later.

    It would also be a nice gesture to bothyour sister and her diance and your familyt o wait until the wedding craziness is over. It’s not wrong to do it before, it’s just more stress for everyone and I’m all for less stress!

    So do what you want but my vote would be to wait.

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