Post # 1
Is there anyone out there that has felt this way?
Since my last pregnancy “scare” (but I wasn’t scared) we’ve been in the “not quite NTNP” club, and I’m wondering if anyone went through this a well. We were married a few months ago, and while it isn’t the perfectly ideal time to have a baby… Is it ever? I would LOVE a baby, and we have enough that we would be able to do it. Darling Husband and I talked, and he would like to be married a full year (which is not that far away) before trying. I agree that would be good, but we probably wont be much better financially then (as I said, things are not bad. We are mid 20’s and average but not bad) So I’m not really compelled to “prevent”.
i feel like I am better at handling things as they come, so a surprise baby would be the only thing I can really imagine. Is that weird? Is there anyone who is “not quite trying but only kind of sort of preventing”?
eta: iPad autocorrect, sorry for typos!
Post # 3
This is us. Almost to a T, but we’ve been married for nearly two years. The original plan was to come off mirena and TTA for most of the year. We’ve sort of decided that we’re more or less open to having a baby now. So, we are basically loosely using WD – something I’ve never EVER done before so I more or less consider it NTNP. Darling Husband, on the other hand, supposedly used it quite a bit for years with an ex and didn’t consider it playing with fire.
We know that it’s not perfect timing, but we also know that there’s really no such thing. So why not at least keep our minds and hearts open to the possibility? After all, we both grew up really poor. We’re already so much more together (and older) than our parents were – so I’m pretty sure it will be ok. Our kids will never be trust fund babies anyway, and our financial situation isn’t likely to GREATLY improve over the next year or anything. We’re planning a move/job switch, but that’s it. And our careers are almost always going to be contract based, so it’s not like I can really guarantee I’m going to get a maternity leave anywhere.
Ipad autocorrect is seriously the worst.
Post # 4
This was us last year. I came off BCP after the honeymoon, in March of 2012. We were long distance from March – September so we didn’t have many opportunities to be together and when we were, it was always right before or right after AF so we knew there was little chance of pregnancy.
I started tracking my periods (can be irregular) and my CM around July or August so that I had a better idea of when i might ovulate. We weren’t exactly trying to avoid, but we weren’t trying to do it around ovulation time either. If they happen to fall around the same time, then so be it. Darling Husband had no idea when my “fertile window” was.
We just had our 1 year anniversary a couple weeks ago and that is the first time we timed things with ovulation in mind. I still don’t feel like we are “actively” TTC but I guess techinically we are? But maybe in a very casual, dare I say LAZY sort of way??? I still feel like we are in the “if it happens, it happens. if it doesn’t? no biggie” camp.