- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I needed to vent, mostly because my poor FH is tired of hearing about our money problems, because he’s all too well aware, but also because my parents keep playing it off like it’s not a big deal.
I graduated from high school in 2008 and went straight to college 3 days later. I took care of all of my basics at a community college and got an associate’s degree, then I transferred to a university. I lived off of student loans and worked, so I never really had any issues paying bills or having a little extra money laying around. Then, I ended up sitting out of college for a few semesters because of a financial aid screw up. I’m an impatient person, so instead of doing the smart thing and just waiting it out, I moved and decided to go to a private tech college so I could graduate with something and have a career. My thinking was that once I had a secure job, I could finish out my bachelor’s degree at my own pace. Of course, stupid me, private colleges are expensive, even tech schools, so now all of my student loan money goes directly to them, and I can’t find a job.
Why is this frustrating? At 20 years old, I had enough money to pay for almost all of my bills. The only thing I didn’t pay for was my car insurance. Now, nearly 3 years later, I’m depending on my parents more than ever. The money that I got from my scholarship is almost gone (I had $1000 total), all the money that I’d saved from years before is also almost gone (like, less than $100), I have been unable to find a job that fits around my school schedule, FH’s not making very much because of hour cuts at his job and honestly, we barely have enough to pay the bills, let alone by groceries. Without my grandparents and parents sending me money, we might have to pick between paying bills or eating, and even with help we still do.
My mom keeps telling me that I shouldn’t worry because they will help and because in November I should have a full time job and will be done with school. She also keeps reminding me of all the extra money that’s been set aside for me by family members in the past to give me when I graduate from college, but that’s still several months away.
Essentially, come November FH and I won’t have money problems, but there’s still a fair amount of time between then and now, and it bothers me.