(Closed) Not Receiving Invitations

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
53 posts
Worker bee

I think it’s relatively common to have a few get lost/returned/delayed–especially if you are sending out a lot.  I had one come back return to sender and one go missing.  This is where a website and spare invites really help.  We didn’t know about the missing one until the RSVP deadline came and went and we contacted the extended family to ask if they were coming.  When they said they never received the invite, we apologized and assured them that we wanted them to attend.  Here’s where the website was awesome–we were able to quickly direct them to info about locations/times/hotel/etc.  Then we let them know that we’d be dropping a replacement invite in the mail.  I think people are pretty understanding about these kinds of things.

Oh yah, it’s also helpful (maybe not in your case since they already went out, but for other people who might be reading) to send an invite to yourself.  That helps you know around when they will be received by local family/friends and also what kind of shape they look like when they arrive.  You might even want to do this BEFORE you send out the others as a test run to make sure they don’t get snarky with the postage, etc.


Post # 4
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had 2 (that we know of) not make it to the recipients, out of 70-something total.  1 got sent back to us, 1 did not.  I always wondered where that one invitation ended up… that sucker cost me $6! Something that expensive and big/thick shouldn’t just disappear in the mail!!

Post # 6
3616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

From our save the dates we had 2 that I know of that didn’t make it to their destination. I only knew they hadn’t gotten them yet because they’re two good friends who knew they were definitely invited so they’d asked when the wedding was since they knew it was some time in December and wanted to plan their holiday plans accordingly. I verified their addresses and both said it was correct. I’m curious who else didn’t get theirs now =(. We are mailing our invitations now (like literally tomorrow 😀 ) so I’m crossing my fingers they all get to their destinations. I almost want to put a certified mail thingy on all of them. LOL but that’s a little obsessive no?

Post # 7
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I only mailed 40 invites. Of those, I’m not aware of any that weren’t received at all, but one just arrived this week, more than two weeks past the reply by date!

Post # 8
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

On a slightly different note, I once received an invitation that was completely sliced and shredded! Like, as if Edward Scissor Hands had gotten a hold of it. All the pieces arrived in our mailbox inside of a plastic bag.  :/

Post # 10
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@LoveMikey: maybe it was suppose to be a puzzle? I know it wasn’t but.

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