Post # 1
i need some advice, I am having a small (8 people total) destination wedding on the east coast and my best friend is generously insisting on throwing me a bridal shower before the wedding. at first i said no way am i asking people to come and bring me gifts at a shower when they aren’t invited to my wedding, but after talking to most of the people who will be invited to the shower they all said that they just want to have an oppurtunity to help celebrate, regardless if they are coming to the wedding or not, so i finally agreed to the shower and am actaully really looking forward to it.
with that being said I don’t know what to do about registering, I feel that it is inappropriate for me to register for gifts since i am not having a typical wedding but my friends are saying that i should because my bridal shower guest want to bring a gifts and its easier for them to go off a registery, rather than just get me something random and hope that i don’t already have it / or hope that it matches my home decor. my best friends and I are trying to think of a creative way to give my guests idea of thing i would like/need without registering/ flat out asking for them. any ideas? Thanks!
Post # 3
@SouthernBee: Do whatever YOU want to do… I’m doing the same type of wedding and people keep asking about where I’m registering. At first I started to think maybe I should register, but I didn’t want to in the first place and I still don’t want to. So I’m not. I may give my mom a list of things (like coffee/espresso maker, not “Krups® 19-Bar Combination Espresso/Coffee Machine”) but I think I’ll most likely just take my chances. If people want to get you something like towels, they’ll ask someone what color your bathroom is.
Post # 4
If there’s a shower, it’s the least you can do to register and show up if buying gifts off of registries is common in your area. As a shower guest, I like to give the couple something they want and need without having to ask them what color or item. It’s common courtesy In my circles.
If you really don’t want to register, then ask the host to call it a luncheon instead of a shower so guests aren’t obligated to bring gifts and your host isn’t put in the awkward situation of telling them you aren’t registered when they ask.
Post # 6
I am having a destination wedding, just us 2. My very good friend asked to throw me a shower right after we got engaged, knowing it was just us. Then 2 family members are throwing me another. I’m registered.
I didn’t ask to be graciously thrown these showers. I am beyond grateful and registered accordingly. I guess you could decline if you are uncomfortable, but I feel it’s totally ok if you want to register. And if not, that’s ok, too! =)