(Closed) not registering for our shower? what do you think??

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: not registering for our shower...good idea??
    Great idea! Be unique and have some faith!! : (2 votes)
    13 %
    You're absolutely nuts. Enjoy the experience! : (13 votes)
    87 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    You’ll probably want to register to give your guests options to buy from.  Otherwise, you will several cutting boards, pizza pans, blue towels, etc…  How will they know your color scheme or what you need?

    Post # 4
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    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    So wanted to go this route.  In fact, didn’t want a shower. Alas, I was told by family that this was not an option. So, I am asking for guests to bring a flower brooch/earrings/pins from their jewelry box for my brooch bouquet collection.

    Post # 5
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    597 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I would make a small one…..

    We’re going to make a small one, but we’re having a small wedding. Just things we need. 

    It’s also okay to ask for donations instead, or make a honeymoon fund.

    Post # 6
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    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    My sister didn’t register and she ended up with 4 crock pots all at the same shower. It was REALLY uncomfortable. I felt bad for her. It’s pretty hard to say “I love it” or “I can really use another one” after you open four. I would seriously reconsider this idea.

    Post # 7
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    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    There have been some other suggestions on themes like recipe showers where guests bring their favorite recipe to start a family cookbook.  Or a wine party, where everyone brings a bottle for a collection.  Or even books, honeymoon supplies or charity donations.  I have learned the guests feel like they should bring something, so going the no gift route may backfire, and you’ll still end up with presents.  Granted it’s meant with the best of intentions, but as kelmac mentioned, you could end up with 4 crock pots Wink.

    Post # 8
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    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If it’s a traditional kitchen/home type shower, I think you really should register.  You’re going to get these types of gifts, might as well be stuff you want and need vs. a bunch of stuff you already have or stuff that’s just not quite your style.  I think guests are so accustomed to picking off a registry it might be a little irritating to have to “guess” what the bride wants.  As a guest, if I’m spending $50+ on a shower gift, I want to know it’s something the couple really wants and likes.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    You should register. My issue at the begining was we are renovating the house and didnt need any “stuff”. Then I read so much about how some people wont just give cash they WILL buy you somthing. So atleast be registering its stuff that you actully want.

    Also I have been a homeowner for 5 years and was SHOCKED to find so much stuff we needed! (or wanted Smile)

    Post # 10
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    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I would be annoyed if I was going to a shower and the bride didn’t register. Your registry means I can spend 15 minutes shopping for you. If you don’t register, I have to think about your personality, what you might not already have, what is fun and useful (but still suits your personality + you likely don’t already own it) and THEN research to find a good quality product at a reasonable price. With the way I shop, we’re talking at least 2-3 hours of time spent trying to find you a gift.

    Sure, I’d do it for a good friend, and for my nearest and dearest I tend to go off registry and do it anyway, but if you were some cousin or coworker? I’d be annoyed, to be honest. Like, I might not even get you a gift. I might just throw a target gift card in a card and be done with it.

    Post # 11
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    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    It really does help your guests if you register, and I would recommend it unless your guest know you well enough to know what you like.

    If you decide not to register, I’d definitely do a “theme” shower…asking everyone to bring their fav wine, or a ‘travel shower” where everyone brings something for the honeymoon, or just ask everyone to donate to your fav charity….just somehting that will help avoid the awkwardness of multiple gifts.

    Post # 12
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    If you don’t register, people will be even more clueless on what to get you. People want to give you what you want. Also, you’ll get duplicates of things.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    i think guests would much rpefer that you have a registry. for those that want to pick out stuff on their own, they still can, but most people just want a list of stuff you want and then pick something. also, if you don’t register you are bound to get tons of stuff you don’t want/don’t need. remember, registries don’t have to be all place settings and towels, there are plenty of other things you can put on there. i’ve seen tv’s, cameras, luggage…anythng you can find to scan with that gun.

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