(Closed) not right!!!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

wow….I have no words.

Post # 4
825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I just laughed when you said, “o it cooks my grits” That is hysterical! I want to start using that…are you from down south?

Post # 5
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

So your sister just got engaged and is getting married before your wedding date – is that right? How close are your dates? Have you talked to your mom about how you feel about them not helping you? Just practically speaking, because her wedding is first, they will have to focus on getting things done for that wedding. It is unfortunate that she did that but she did and you cannot change it. I would try to make peace with it and speak with your mom/family about how you are feeling. Good Luck!

Post # 6
336 posts
Helper bee

If I put myself in your shoes I could maybe see being a little disappointed about them getting married before you…I think that would only be human. But notice I said disappointed..not angry.

And nowhere is there a ‘rule’ that anyone should put their life on hold for you. Nobody should have to wait to be engaged until after you are married. That IS selfish. 

Post # 7
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

get ready for everyone on here to tell you that you only have one day….blah blah…. you can be mad (inside) im sorry they are doing this… she was just jealous probably and this is how she is acting. Just be classy and have the BEST wedding!!

Post # 9
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I really don’t think someone has to wait until after you get married to even get engaged. Put yourself in their shoes. Would you have wanted Fiance to wait to ask you until after your sister had gotten married. I get it that it might irk you a bit that they get married first but it really doesn’t make your day any less special. Focus on your day and be happy for them.

Post # 10
2742 posts
Sugar bee

In a one year period, me and three of my siblings are getting married. Those family members that can make it will make it. If not, oh well. I’m sorry though, I don’t agree with you. Not because “You only get one day” but because, if I’m reading it right, one should wait after the first engaged person gets married BEFORE others should get engaged? Or should she put her wedding on hold for you…um, actually, I don’t really understand your post 🙁

Post # 11
29 posts
  • Wedding: January 2012


Post # 13
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

you got engaged first so you should get married first. its respectful to wait until after you all get married to even get engaged,

there is no way on gods green earth would i delay my marriage because someone that got engaged before me thinks i should wait until after they were married to have my turn

what if you want a 2yr engagement???  heck no!  we were married less than 6mths after we were engaged – if anyone got their panties in a twist over that then thats their issue to deal with



Post # 15
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

She doesn’t have to wait until you’re married unless it’s some sort of cultural thing?  I think it would be polite of her to wait perhaps 2 weeks to announce her engagement. 

Post # 16
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You’re not going to like this…

I think you’re being a little selfish. I understand that you feel that she’s stealing your thunder, but for someone to have to wait until you are married to get engaged? Ridiculous!

I’m sorry that your family and sister aren’t being a bit more respectful of your feelings on this though. I know how it feels to have someone who is always trying to compete with you for everything.

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