(Closed) Not saying a thing!!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
359 posts
Helper bee

He’s thinking about it.  I keep bringing it up, but I know that my SO has it on his mind.  Maybe not as much as I do, but it’s on his mind.  He’ just playing the Cool, Calm and Collected Peanut.  😉

Post # 6
115 posts
Blushing bee

@Anxiouspeanut: If you’ve told him your deadline at least a few times already and said it was important to you, he wouldn’t forget. Wanting to get married by X date is not something you can forget. 

I talk about getting married a lot recently (I’m trying to stop!). Although we joke around most of the time, he knows when I’m being serious about what I want. 

Post # 8
843 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My SO (at the time) planned a trip last minute to take me on to propose to me.  So there may be a trip, you just don’t know about it!

Post # 10
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@Anxiouspeanut: So, it sort of sounds like he knows your timeline. You said you wanted to be engaged before your trip to Mexico in December, and he told you that it would happen before then. I think it’s safe to say that you’ll be proposed to sometime this year before your December trip. Let him have his moment and be able to surprise you!

Post # 12
450 posts
Helper bee

@Anxiouspeanut: I am in the EXACT same position as you and that SAME thought/question has been on my mind for months now! So I really know how you feel.  But someone gave me some good advice the other day about how keeping silent during the waiting period gives you major leverage when you do have the talk with him after the timeline is up (hopefully that won’t be necessary).  So if he’s given you a timeline I say keep quiet until after it is over.  I know how incredibly difficult that can be, so I truly sympathize with you.  But you can always vent on here and get support in the next few months.  Trust me, weddingbee has saved me from bringing the topic up on a number of occasions!

Post # 13
45 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just posted a thread about not talking during the given timeline and I agree with everyone who has posted here and on mine.

Just come to the bee for the times you cannot handle it, that’s my plan at least :).

If your guy is at all old fashioned, like mine is, he will not want you to know anything about the proposal and if you are like me and like to know everything about anything then it does get hard.

Knowing a proposal is coming is better than not having any idea. It is far away but it is better than nothing just try to think positive thoughts, I know that helps me :).

Post # 14
2893 posts
Sugar bee

My guy is a Procrastinator. With a capital P. During our timeline discussion I told him I was worried, since he’s also an out of sight out of mind type, that he might forget about it and us and moving forward. I hope this helps you guys, but, his response was, “How can I forget about something like that? I see you every day. You’re the reminder.”

It was a huge relief to me and I haven’t had to worry about whether or not he’d remember or not. So, maybe take into consideration the fact that he’s said he has something in mind, and the fact that you are the best reminder of your life together he has. If it’s something he really wants, your presence is enough. Good luck! Hope something great happens on your vaca! 🙂

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