Post # 1
So, I am pretty traditional in that I told Fiance he doesn’t get to see me in my getup until I’m walking down the aisle. I have always dreamed that would be the first moment. Fiance loves the idea and is looking forward to it, also.
What I am at a loss with is whether or not we could both be at the reception hall to decorate that morning or not. What if I wait to get hair and make up done so he doesn’t see anything. I can’t decide if it will be easy or hard to see him at that point. I know I will be very emotional that day. But I know he wants to help decorate so the pressure isn’t all on the women.
Any advice, experiences or thoughts?
Post # 3
i was planning for me and my fiance to see other the night before and not again until i walk down the aisle. you can play time slots for him to decorate then for you to decorate. or you can have your bridesmaids and groomsmen do that so you can relax! if you are really into not seeing each other that day, i’d go with time slots and keep in CONTACT like crazy the day of the wedding, hope this helps!
Post # 4
If the purpose is for him not to see you all dressed up until the ceremony, then no worries about seeing him earlier in the day, prior to getting ready.
If the purpose is to keep with the superstition that it’s bad luck to see each other that day, then you would want to avoid each other.
This “tradition” derives from the days of arranged marriages when the groom didn’t necessarily know who/what he was getting until the ceremony itself. If you want to uphold it for sentimental reasons, then you need to decide which way to look at it and which way of implementing it makes most sense.
Post # 5
I got married in the morning, and the venue didn’t allow us to decorate the night before. My Darling Husband was at the venue at a crazy early hour to do set up. They didn’t even consider inviting me to help!
He headed back to his parent’s house to change about the time I arrived and started greeting family/guests and handing out the family flowers. I stayed hidden once he came back, but I peeked around corners and could see him.
I wouldn’t have had a problem with him seeing me in “regular” clothes the morning of the wedding – he knows what I look like in jeans! – but I don’t believe in the bad luck aspect of not seeing the bride – I just wanted the tradition part, I wanted to see his face as I started down the aisle. (And it was amazing, worth hiding for 35 minutes to surprise him!)
If you want to both decorate the reception hall, and neither of you feels weird about it, then go for it. But, in order to preserve the traditional surprise, show up looking “normal” – not with your hair done or something.
Something to keep in mind though – if you’re having your hair or makeup professionally done that can take some time. Your appointments might keep you from being able to spend much time decorating anyway.
Post # 6
I would like to see my fiance the morning of my wedding. it would be nice if he could help decorate. My Maid/Matron of Honor is very against it though. She was aghast when I even suggested that he help us with decorating. I haven’t decided yet whether or not I’m willing to humor her.