(Closed) Not seeing the bride before the wedding – ???

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We’re in the same situation as you, so we’re throwing the whole tradition out the window 🙂  We’re going to do a first look shoot, and then the rest of the bridal party & family pics if possible prior to the ceremony 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We had a Day-Of coordinator and he organized it perfectly for us. I rode in a taxi to the venue with my two bridesmaids and then started getting the bridal portraits and bridesmaids pictures out of the way asap. Then the day-of coordinator hid me at 3pm so my husband could come on the premises to do his portraits and groomsmen photos. Our ceremony was at 4pm and we did our “Couple” photos right after the ceremony along with family photos.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

You could do a first look.

We stayed at the same hotel so it was a little difficult to avoid eachother all day, but we did it. The guys took a limo to the ceremony and stopped on the way to take pictures together. They got dropped off at the church and the limo came back for me and the girls. It was less than 10 minutes away so I guess this wouldnt work if you had a long drive, but I suppose you could look into renting an extra car just for a hour?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This is our delema; but I really want him to see me for the first time (and me him) walking down the aisle. We will probz do pictures after the ceremony.

I was at a wedding where they made us wait 2 hourse in between the ceremony and reception for pictures. We were hungry and getting pissed. So we will try to make it quick and offer food and entertainment to our guests while they wait.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Sparkle_Bee:  we did ALL our photos before and I felt like it was a much better use of time instead of making the guests wait after the ceremony.  We also had a limo to get from the hotel to the venue and having the first look was much more convenient for sharing.

We took photos at the hotel AND on the yacht and I like the yacht ones more probably because it was our actual venue.

What you could do is blindfold him for the limo ride if you wanted to keep the tradition going until post ceremony?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You should research “first look” shots. It’s a way to take pictures before the ceremony so you can go straight from the ceremony to the reception.

If you guys really want to keep it traditional (i.e. groom doesn’t see the bride before the ceremony), here is the most effecient way to do it (IMO). Take all the pictures you possibly can before the ceremony (ex. family pictures, wedding party pictures, etc.), then take an hour or two after your ceremony to take the pictures that have both you and your husband in them.

I have met a lot of people that forewent pictures before the ceremony alltogether and they all regretted it. It took several hours between the ceremony and the reception to get all the pictures they wanted, so they were in a rush to get to the reception. Although this all depends on how many hours are between your ceremony and reception. If there are several hours, like 4 or 5, you could probably forego pictures before and be fine.

I would strongly reccomend doing a first look shoot! There are so many advantages to do it this way, and not just about timing. I want to do one very badly, but unfortunately SO is very traditional and has made it very clear he doesn’t want to see me before the ceremony. oh well…

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You could do pics of the seperate bridal parties before the ceremony.

I really don’t want to have a first look if I can avoid it. I want to have that moment coming down the aisle where I see him and he sees me. I also know our first look pictures would be pretty lame because he’s not a sentimental guy and he’d probably just be looking at my boobies. XD

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I am not sentimental so I hate the “First Look” shots. We might do them just to get his mother off our backs about taking pictures before the ceremony. We want all the pictures done so we can spend time with our guest. That’s an idea.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

We are not doing a first look, so my plan is to finish getting ready at the venue, while the groomsmen get dressed at our hotel. This way I can take pictures with the girls, and then text the boy to let him know it’s safe to come to the venue. Then I get to stay locked up in the bridal suite until the festivities begin. Afterwards, we will be missing the cocktail hour for couples photos.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@6598731ssfse3:  This is exactly what we’re planning on doing as well 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@6598731ssfse3:  

this is how it was done with the last wedding I was in. The guys did their shots while us girls were inside. Then the guys had to go somewhere while the girls had theirs. After the ceremony it was everyone.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Here’s what we’ve planned.

Solo shots, me with my gals, him with his boys, individual family shots, will all be done before ceremony.

All our couple photos will be done during cocktail hour, we have even considered extending cocktail hour by 30 minutes to get more photos. We chose a photographer that has experience with the venue and with couples who prefer not to do a first look.

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We’re doing everything at the same location, as well. Fortunately, there’s a hotel right next door that shares a parking lot with our venue. We’ll be driving to the venue the night before for the rehearsal and stay in separate rooms. I’ll probably be staying in the bridal suite, and he’ll probably stay with his parents. I plan on getting ready in the hotel and dressed at the venue. The only tricky part will be walking over to the venue from the hotel. . . I’ll probably have my bridesmaids make sure he stays put while I’m heading over! I would love to do pictures before the ceremony but Mr. Madteaparty is very traditional and does not want to see me until I walk down the aisle. So, we’ll have our ceremony and pictures during the cocktail hour which immediately follows the ceremony. I’m confident it’ll all work out. 

As far as your questions go. . . typically getting to the venue, your father sits with you in the limo. 

YES to separate cars. Whether he drives himself or has his own limo for the groomsmen. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I’m not bothering with it. We’ll wake up together. But we do have separate pre-wedding tasks. He’ll still see me before the ceremony, though. The whole tradition presents so many logistical nightmares compared to the slight ‘surprise’ you get by sticking to it.

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