(Closed) Not seeing the bride before the wedding – ???

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 17
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We’re in the same boat as you as well, we’re staying at a plantation Fri to Sun but Fiance is dead set against first look, he’s very traditional and I kinda side with him on this one. So we will spend Fri together and go to bed in separate bedrooms Fri night and Sat the guys will go out and do something like go play golf so we have the grounds to ourselves and our photographer wants to show up 2 hours early so we can do bridal party pictures and my pictures and Fiance and his guys can get their pictures done so then after the wedding all we have to do is everyone and us during cocktail hour.

Post # 18
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We stayed in the same room and had breakfast together…but once I left for hair and makeup, we didn’t see each until the altar.


Post # 19
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014



@LilliePad:   These are really good ideas! I like that. I’m kind of sentimental about the first time my groom will see me (even though I’m pretty non-traditional about everything else) – so these sounds like great ways to work it out…

Mostly commenting so I can come back and look at this, haha. 😉

Post # 20
10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

You could do a first look, they seem to be pretty popular now. I personally don’t want to do that so we will be splitting pictures – we will do my side and his side separately before the ceremony, so that after the ceremony we only have big group and family pictures to do. And of course bride/groom. But it cuts down some time at least. 

Post # 21
3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@YogaFaerie:  Prior to my wedding I thought that the groom waiting to see the bride was silly and I really wanted to do a first look, but my husband was very insistent on not seeing me in my gown. Now after our wedding is done and over with I am SO happy he didn’t see me until I was walking down the aisle. (Granted, we did have breakfast together that morning, but I didn’t have any makeup on and was in just a tanktop and jeans.)

Post # 22
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We’re each planning get as many pictures as possible out of the way beforehand separately, and then do our together/family photos after the ceremony. Our ceremony is going to be pretty short, so that should leave us an hour and a bit to do photos. And, since our ceremony and reception are both at a museum, our guests can enjoy some cocktails/drinks while exploring the museum. I figure since everyone will have something to do, they won’t mind if we disappear for a bit.

Post # 23
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We’re taking this tradition and molding it to our needs. We’ll be decorating the ceremony and reception rooms ourselves (one place, two room), so we’ll be seeing each other all morning. Once me and my BMs leave to get ready in a hotel, we won’t see each other again. So, we won’t see each other roughly three hours before the ceremony begins.

Post # 24
719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think the “First Look” idea is cute and definitely convenient, but I can’t bring myself to do it. I admit to being pretty superstitious, even though I know it’s silly. It’s not that I actually think the universe will rip us apart if he sees me before the ceremony, but I just can’t not follow the tradition on this one. Chalk it up to crazy, I guess.

Our venue has a villa right next door (which we’ve rented) so the guys will get dressed there while the girls and I are getting our hair done. When the guys are done, they’ll move over to the venue and we will take over the villa. The photographer (when we book him/her lol) will do pre-photos of the guys while we get ready, and maybe of the bridesmaids and I if there is time. If not, after the ceremony. At least we’re all in one location, so doing photos during the cocktail hour isn’t ridiculous.

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