(Closed) Not sending RSVP Cards?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We’re doing this – just decided today. In the UK cost of stamps is just about to shoot up and we can’t afford to include stamped addressed envelopes with every invite – that + the cost of sending the invite + the cost of sending the thank you after is going to cost us a bomb. We’re doing RSVP cards for older guests who aren’t online and for a couple of people who would think it poor etiquette not to get one – I dont think anyone else will care and if they do….well, I guess they’ll get over it!

Post # 4
11351 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Not including reply cards and envelopes is actually a very formal, traditional choice.  Guests are supposed to know that they promptly should to write a note on their own stationery to either accept or decline your kind invitation.  Many people today do not know this, however, so most brides do choose to send response cards and self-addressed, stamped envelopes with them.

Since you are planning to use your website as a means of responding, however, I did want to offer one additional piece of advice.  You should not use the language “Please RSVP,” as this is redundant, with the French phrase already providing the “please.”  A better choice of wording would be “Please respond by ________.”

Post # 5
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Loupyloo:  We are doing the same. At 61cents per stamp only the older guests who arent online will be having an actual rsvp (my 87 year old grandmother is even on facebook so only 2 people are getting the real deal). Everyone else will be getting a cute thing saying to rsvp online with the direct link. We are saving the price of postage as our thank yous will be extra (we are sending everyone photo DVDs).

Post # 6
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

We have a line that says please rsvp at our wedding website OR call us at _____ and leave a message if we are not around. Most of the non-technical people we are planning to invite wouldn’t have a problem calling

Post # 7
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re trying to keep things eco friendly, so our invites are just 1 card that refer people to our website to RSVP, or to give us a call if they are not fans of the interwebz.


Post # 8
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@globalmargaret:  agreed.

I have a few relatives who would not knowo what to do if we had guests RSVP online. We opted to send out RSVP postcards. I’ve been to weddings that had guests RSVP online and I was okay with it

Post # 9
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We didn’t include RSVP cards and had great success – plus because our website was build through Google Sites, the RSVP form dumped into into our RSVP spreadsheet in Google Docs.


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