- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
I need some advice:
Situation is: A female first cousin of mine sent me a message on Facebook a few months ago(2 at most) asking if she could invite her mother-who is no longer my aunt, who I rarely see and do not particularly care for. She(cousin) also mentioned that she and her daughter’s father were no longer together and he would not be attending. I told her our budget and space was already really tight.
I told my cousin that she could invite her mother in place of her ex for a total of 3 guests. She agreed and I mailed out the invitation with an RSVP card specifically reading “We have reserved 3 seats in your honour” PLUS three names. She replied with 6 RSVPS. I immediately contacted her to ask who these individuals were and she replied that it was her mother, her daughter, her boyfriend, herself, and her boyfriends two children. The latter of which I had NEVER heard a word about (BF and kids). I AGAIN told her we were close to capacity and stiff on the budget and hardly anyone was not able to attend so far: that I could only allow 4 maximum.
She told ME that I would have many guests that wouldn’t be able to attend and that she had to bring 5, I couldn’t possibly ask her to CHOOSE, “life changes” and that she would pay me the $50 for the extra child that won’t eat ANY FOOD OR DRINK ANY BOOZE. Also, that if I didn’t like that then none would come. The tricky part is her daughter was supposed to be a flower girl and I told her I don’t need any negativity like that on my day and that she was no longer invited, as tactfully as I could.
Was I in the right or wrong? What about Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc. awkwardness?
She is 27 years old and let’s people know that she has a “right” to be a stay at home mother without any consent from any man, including the baby’s father, and lives back and forth between her mother and father’s house, and “chooses” not to work.
HELP!!!! Please. I am losing sleep over this