Post # 1
I feel kind of bad because my bridesmaids (two sisters and two cousins) want to go to the bar and drink and get crazy and whatnot. I’m not against drinking but I don’t want to get wasted or anything it’s just the bar scene isn’t my thing. (One cousin and one sister are party animals, so they want to go to the bar, of course). They are telling me that I need to be fun and I understand that, but I said I don’t feel comfortable at bars. Now, they planned a spa day and dinner, then to the casino, which is okay but now I feel like they are all kind of mad and bummed at me. Is it so wrong that I said that I didn’t want to do anything crazy?
Post # 2
No, not at all. You’re not wrong for not wanting to get crazy or drunk. Not everyone likes to do that stuff.
This is your bachelorette party. It should be something you like to do. If they want to go to a bar and get drunk and crazy, they can do that any other night of the week.
If they’re bummed that they can’t go to a bar and get drunk on this one occasion, then they might need to grow up a little.
What they’ve planned sounds like a lot of fun, so hopefully you’ll all have a good time.
Post # 3
You’re not wrong at all. If the bar scene isn’t your thing then you would have had a very uncomfortable bachelorette party! I understand. I got the same kind of response from my friends. “You’re no fun. You’re so boring. It’s your last unmarried night, you should party!” But I’m not a drinker and had to stand firm in that. It should be about you and your comfort and celebration!
It sounds like it will be a fun day even without the drinking! Enjoy it!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Don’t they kknow you at all? I’m surprised they didn’t take that into consideration originally.
Post # 5
Thanks everyone! I feel a lot better now getting it off my chest.
Post # 6
its your bachelorette. when they get one of their own they can go out and be crazy at bars. but this one is YOURS and should be fun for YOU above everyone else
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
Not at all. If they really want to go to a bar, they can go after finishing your night. It is about whatmakes you comfortable.