(Closed) not so brotherly love …. any advise plz bee’s

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I am so sorry to hear you and Fiance are going through this. Ugh. Family drama stinks.

I do have to deal with some family members who do not get along and will have to co-exist at the wedding, but nothing to that extent.

I would suggest talking to each brother and finding some sort of way they could all come- sit in different places at the ceremony to be able to witness the ceremony…and maybe just brother C and A could come to the reception?

Post # 4
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry!  We have a family too.  My family was able to attend and be civil, but if that’s not the case, do what your Fiance most wants.  If he would hope for his brothers to all be there, invite them and be sure they know they are welcome to sit where ever they are comfortable, even if that is to arrive a bit late and sit in the back.  Inviting him to sit with your family is such a kind idea and I think you should at least offer.

All you can do is be as open and inviting to each brother as you can, and let them know how very much their brother (your FI) wants them there. 


Post # 6
14657 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It sounds like brother B is the problem.  Does B and C get along with his parents/family?

I think you, more so your Fiance, should tell them to grow up and just deal with each other for a single day and then go back to hating each other.  Or, they dont even have to deal with each other, dont talk to each other or dont even look in the others direction, dont do even acknowledge each others presence for all it matters, and just focus on the wedding at hand.

Post # 7
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Invite them all and see what gives. Also offer to have them sit wherever they want, including with your family if they choose to do so. If they do not show up, it’s no biggie. Your Fiance will survive. You are there to support him emotionally. Smile

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