(Closed) Not so fresh “down there”

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i would just tell hubby to go have a shower – especially if he wants oral sex

or you can offer to shower with him


Post # 4
59 posts
Worker bee

ohh… thats a toughie. personally i would rather NOT be told, i think thats something a person should be able to tell.

if it was my SO… i’d probably suggest taking a shower together. and then i could supervise the clean up, lol.

is this like a one time situation or recurring… because if its happening a lot then there may need to be a discussion.

Post # 5
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Personally, I know if/ when I’m not fresh so in those situations, I gently steer FH elsewhere.

If my FH was not fresh, I wouldn’t say anything. I would just not go there, if you know what I mean. I generally know ahead of time when he’s “not fresh” though (after work, after hockey, etc). He showers regularly so it’s not like there is an ongoing issue.

I guess I’m not much help.

Post # 6
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

My husband is a police officer in one of the scummiest neighbourhoods in town.  I just tell him I’m worried there might be “name-of-the-area germs” down there, and he gets the point.

Post # 7
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

umm–mine isnt either. after about 2 hours of being out of the shower….i can’t stand it. once I realized this, I told him. now he doesn’t even try if he’s exceeded the time limit. lol. (: a nice way to do it is like everyone seems to be suggesting showering together & supervising the clean up.

Post # 8
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I would just say straight out that if he wants head, he needs to be extra clean.  He’ll get the message quickly. 

Post # 9
25 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

I know that I know for sure if I am not “fresh” down there.  I have been struggling with BV and it doesn’t matter how much I shower…. so I just tell him…. “babe, you gave me the BV again, keep your face outta there :D”   HA!  And with him…. I have yet to smell him in a bad way… just different but never gross…….  🙂  

Post # 12
222 posts
Helper bee

@Pia2010: I agree. SO is the type of man who wants head ALL THE DANG TIME. When I stopped initiating and he asked why, I nicely said “hunny I don’t mind giving you head, infact sometimes I really like it! But you have a lot of hormones and when your junk’s been sweating in your pants all day, it’s hard to want to put my face down there…” Boy did he clean up! Now I know when he wants it because he’ll be washing his junk in the bathroom sink LMAO!

Post # 14
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d much rather be told than have my partner suddenly become more reticent about sexytimes without telling me why.

I would just tell him straight out. If I thought it was a sensitive issue, I would try and be more lighthearted in the way I brought it up, but I would still bring it up. Communication’s a big sticking point with me.

Post # 15
429 posts
Helper bee

go shower ! thnx Laughing

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