Post # 1
A few nights ago I met up with a friend who recapped her sister’s wedding. She said that everything was awesome, but they were a tad disappointed in the DJ. Apparently they gave him a list of MUST play songs (including the bride’s absolute favorite song) and he played NONE of them. My friend said he ended up just doing his own thing and although he was good and kept the crowd going, he played nothing from their list.
We have the same DJ.
I am starting to freak out because Fiance and I have a list of songs that are super important to us and we would be upset if they were not played. Especially when we are paying an arm and a leg for this DJ. I did forward a list to him and said these MUST be played, but I’m just so scared that he will do the same thing at our wedding.
Any advice on how I can handle this or what I can say to him to be sure these songs are all played?
Anyone else ever have this problem at their wedding? If so, how did you handle it?
Post # 3
@Legallyblondiebride: Since you’re getting down to the wire, what I would do is contact him by phone and mention what your friend told you (in a very diplomatic way, of course). Ask him for an explanation, maybe he has a good one and maybe there was a miscommunication between him and your friend for her wedding. Make it really clear to him how important your playlist is to you. I hope it works out.
Getting nervous yet, lol??
Post # 4
@Sunfire: I think I may do that. Maybe there is a simple explanation for it…afterall, there are two sides to every story 🙂
YES I am getting SOOOO nervous! My stomach is in knots!
Post # 5
@Legallyblondiebride: I hope it works out with the DJ. Maybe he’d lost or forgotten your friend’s list. Bring a backup list with you and touch base with him at the reception, again, if you have time, just to be sure he has it. Talking to him in advance should help, too.
I work with special events a lot and a good DJ will choose a mix between the playlist request, his own choices, and impromtu crowd requests. He should also pay attention and read the crowd responses and make choices to get people up and dancing. So don’t be too strict, lol. But he should still play all your favorites!
Post # 6
I think you need to meet with your DJ in person and discuss your song list. I learned a lot from doing that, if the DJ is a professional and good at what he does he will advise you whether some of your “must play” songs will be more appropriate for cocktail hour, dinner, last dance, etc. Some of the songs that we loved and had on our list were songs that we loved, but our DJ knew right away that they were not danceable or would clear the dance floor, and once that is done it is often hard to build back the momentum at a wedding. Often times couples give their DJ too many “must play” songs rather than allowing their DJ to do his/her job reading the crowd and making sure everyone is having a great time. It’s a delicate balance of trusting your DJ and having songs that are truly important to you played, they may not all be played during the dancing part of the reception, but be open to hearing them at other times, for me having people dancing all night was a priority, so we trusted our DJ to make the right decisions and he didn’t disappoint us. But he should communicate with you about your list so that you know what to expect.