Post # 1
today everything seems to make me angry, according to Pat Robertson:
US religious broadcaster Pat Robertson told his “700 Club” viewers that divorcing a spouse with Alzheimer’s is justifiable because the disease is “a kind of death”.
I know it sounds cruel, but if he’s going to do something, he should divorce her and start all over again, but make sure she has custodial care and somebody looking after her,” Robertson said
im not dismissing how difficult and painful it is to care for someone with Alzheimers but i would have thought that the man i was married to would have been the “somebody looking after” me but there you go – dump my sorry ass and hook up real quick honey
Post # 3
@eloping: That’s some garbage. These are the sorts of commitments one makes when saying vows.
Post # 4
I’m right there being angry with you. That attitude disgusts me.
When my grandmother developed Parkinson’s and dementia, my grandfather took care of her himself for as long as he was able. He fed her, cleaned her, changed her diapers, and spent as much time with her as he possibly could. When his heart problems finally escalated to the point where he was afraid he couldn’t reliably take care of her himself, he admitted her to a care facility, but still visited her every day to feed her and just be around her, even though she had no idea who he was or why he was there.
My grandfather was a businessman through and through, not particularly given to displays of affection or emotion, but it was no secret how much he loved his wife. You could tell by the nurses’ faces how much they admired his devotion. If anyone had even hinted to him that he should cut and run because it was “easier”, I bet he would have knocked them out cold.
Post # 5
Yea really. Don’t even get me started on that guy. *grrr*
ETA: like Linguo’s, my grandparents were in a similar situation. My grandfather cared for his my grandmother until her death and I’ve never seen love in action like that.
Post # 6
@linguo42: thank you for sharing this – my husbands uncle cared for his wife (brain tumor) until her death and as painful as it was to watch, he loved her so much he wouldnt let anyone else do it. if it happens one day to us i hope i can be that strong
Post # 7
WHOA….. Um that’s not a Christian worldview at all! But as Darling Husband said with this guy in particular… it doesn’t surprise him.
Totally wrong though! UGH
ETA: I know that if God forbide anything ever happened to either one of us the other would be there for the long haul…. I mean isn’t that what real love is?!