- 5 years ago
So this is my first post, I’ve been surfing these boards for the past few month and decided it was about time I joined in!
I just want to know, is anyone else out there driving themselves mad in the wait for those four magic words?
SO and I have been together 3.5 years. I’m 24 and he’s 31 and, because we knew from the start this was going to work, we’ve been living in a beautiful apartment together for 3. At the beginning of our relationship, he was pretty full on in making sure I knew I was who he saw himself marrying one day. That talk slowly fizzled out and such comments aren’t as frequent (though he does still say them, obviously just not as often as when we were in the honeymoon stage of our relationship)
At the beginning of the year, after spending New Year’s Eve together, I asked him what he wanted to accomplish this year. During this Convo, he said he wanted us to be engaged. So it’s now almost the middle of October. After a couple of drinks the other day I couldn’t help but make a light joke that it is almost the end of the year. I then said that of course I’m only kidding because of his new Year’s resolution. He replies “resolution? it was more of a promise” then made it clear to him that under no circumstance do I want to impose an ultimatum or receive a forced proposal. He replied “I was the one who said it, not you”.
It seems everyone around us is getting engaged / married. Both our family and friends ask us about it all the time. I know I bring it up too often, not forcing him, but talking about other peoples weddings and engagements. I feel as though ours is never going to happen, constantly searching for hints. The other day he printed off a bank account balance and showed it to me in passing. It didn’t look like any big chunks of savings were missing 🙁 anyone else going through this? Sorry for the essay but I thought I should get the important details across!!