Post # 1
I’m brand new to this website because I need to live vicariously through your engagements and wedding planning! My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years now. We picked out my e-ring, and (he doesn’t know this part) I accidentally saw a picture of it on his phone when I was transfering photos from a trip we just went on. He’s had so many opportunities to propose and I was sure it was going to happen on V-Day, but I’m S.O.L.
Did any of you feel like you were waiting forever? Especially after seeing your e-ring? How do you stay sane when all you want to do is plan??
Post # 2
My fiancé had the ring 3 months before he proposed (and I knew the last 1.5 months, he didn’t know I knew) and it drove me NUTS! Just try and forget, easier said than done, and trust that he has a special plan!
Post # 3
My husband had the ring for 6 months before proposing (some unforeen circumstances pushed it back further than he had wanted) but the proposal was 100% worth waiting for! It was absolutely perfect!
Just remember that in 50 years in won’t matter if he proposes tomorrow or a few months from now.
Post # 4
Mine had the ring for six months too. He got it on sale and I knew about it, but also knew he was waiting for our vacation. I knew when it was coming but it was still hard
Post # 5
I totally understand! I feel like it’s been ages and he only told me he was starting to plan my surprise 😉 about 8 weeks ago (I know, it’s not that long). It’s hard to contain the excitement, and the thing that helps me (apart from scrolling and reading and commenting on the bee in the last few days) is loosely thinking about things in my head – no dates, no specifics, just ideas of where and vaguely when we might have the wedding, and maybe what style of dress I’d like, etc. Obviously you can’t go phoning vendors for quotes or anything, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with a bit of secret ‘pre-planning’! Just be self-aware and try not to get yourself into a frenzy – it’ll happen!
Post # 6
Well, my husband and I were together for 6 years before we got married. We dated long distance (across the country) for a long time, and when I finally moved to the same town, he bought me an engagement ring a week later… and then didn’t propose for 2 years. Lol. I was perfectly happy just dating, I was just glad I got to see him day to day! Waiting for me was no big 🙂 You can do it!
Post # 7
I am also in this boat. We ordered the ring together in early December, got it resized at the end of December, and it is hidden somewhere in the house. Every time we go somewhere even remotely “special” I get paranoid thinking that might be it. I am trying to just enjoy the anticipation but I do feel like it’s consuming my thoughts a lot of the time. Reading everyone else’s stories on here helps alot!
Post # 8
My FI’s proposal was a complete surprise, but We had been discussing marriage VERY HEAVILY for the previous year and it was killing me not knowing if he had bought a ring or not, so I can sort of relate to having to wait. For me, if I knew he had a ring that would have made it easier!! Honestly though, like everyone says, when it happens you will be so happy and filled with joy that You forget all about the wait. Plus your Fiance will be super proud that he put together a proposal for you all on his own. My Fiance is not the sort of person who does elaborate, romantic plans, but even he cared about making his proposal perfect lol.
Good luck waiting!!!
Post # 9
My “now” husband had the ring 1.5 years before proposing. That waiting period definitely sucks lol. But that’s the fun of it. It’s all part of the process.
Post # 10
thank you for your advice. you’re so right! what does it matter if we have a lifetime together 🙂
Post # 11
i completely agree! it’s the only thing keeping me sane! i just love looking at everyone’s ring posts 🙂
Post # 12
I helped pick out my ring, and it was still 3 months before he proposed. So I understand your pain. But the wait was well worth it.
Post # 13
SO and I have been together for 5 years, we bought the ring together last year around this time and still no proposal. I know that he asked my dad for his blessing (i don’t know when though had to be around the holiday times) But, there is definietly no more patience left for this girl lol. Very much tired of waiting 🙂
Post # 14
You just need to take it one day at a time 🙂 I know each day is a struggle to get through when you know he has the ring, but trust me… we only have so many days in our lives, and they shouldn’t be spend worrying or fretting about when he is going to pop the question 🙂 Give it time!