not-so-patiently waiting…advice?? he has the ring but hasn't proposed!

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My fiancé had the ring 3 months before he proposed (and I knew the last 1.5 months, he didn’t know I knew) and it drove me NUTS!  Just try and forget, easier said than done, and trust that he has a special plan!  

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

My husband had the ring for 6 months before proposing (some unforeen circumstances pushed it back further than he had wanted) but the proposal was 100% worth waiting for! It was absolutely perfect!

Just remember that in 50 years in won’t matter if he proposes tomorrow or a few months from now. 

Post # 4
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1169 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Mine had the ring for six months too.  He got it on sale and I knew about it, but also knew he was waiting for our vacation.  I knew when it was coming but it was still hard

Post # 5
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Newbee

I totally understand! I feel like it’s been ages and he only told me he was starting to plan my surprise πŸ˜‰ about 8 weeks ago (I know, it’s not that long). It’s hard to contain the excitement, and the thing that helps me (apart from scrolling and reading and commenting on the bee in the last few days) is loosely thinking about things in my head – no dates, no specifics, just ideas of where and vaguely when we might have the wedding, and maybe what style of dress I’d like, etc. Obviously you can’t go phoning vendors for quotes or anything, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with a bit of secret ‘pre-planning’! Just be self-aware and try not to get yourself into a frenzy – it’ll happen!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Well, my husband and I were together for 6 years before we got married. We dated long distance (across the country) for a long time, and when I finally moved to the same town, he bought me an engagement ring a week later… and then didn’t propose for 2 years. Lol. I was perfectly happy just dating, I was just glad I got to see him day to day! Waiting for me was no big πŸ™‚ You can do it!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I am also in this boat.Β  We ordered the ring together in early December, got it resized at the end of December, and it is hidden somewhere in the house.Β  Every time we go somewhere even remotely “special” I get paranoid thinking that might be it.Β  I am trying to just enjoy the anticipation but I do feel like it’s consuming my thoughts a lot of the time.Β  Reading everyone else’s stories on here helps alot!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My FI’s proposal was a complete surprise, but We had been discussing marriage VERY HEAVILY for the previous year and it was killing me not knowing if he had bought a ring or not, so I can sort of relate to having to wait. For me, if I knew he had a ring that would have made it easier!! Honestly though, like everyone says, when it happens you will be so happy and filled with joy that You forget all about the wait. Plus your Fiance will be super proud that he put together a proposal for you all on his own. My Fiance is not the sort of person who does elaborate, romantic plans, but even he cared about making his proposal perfect lol.

Good luck waiting!!!

Post # 9
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Worker bee

My “now” husband had the ring 1.5 years before proposing.  That waiting period definitely sucks lol.  But that’s the fun of it.  It’s all part of the process. 

Post # 12
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510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I helped pick out my ring, and it was still 3 months before he proposed.  So I understand your pain.  But the wait was well worth it.

Post # 13
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Newbee

SO and I have been together for 5 years, we bought the ring together last year around this time and still no proposal. I know that he asked my dad for his blessing (i don’t know when though had to be around the holiday times) But, there is definietly no more patience left for this girl lol. Very much tired of waiting πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You just need to take it one day at a time πŸ™‚ I know each day is a struggle to get through when you know he has the ring, but trust me… we only have so many days in our lives, and they shouldn’t be spend worrying or fretting about when he is going to pop the question πŸ™‚ Give it time! 

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