(Closed) Not so sure I will have "the moment" for the dress.

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Member
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I never had the “crying, THIS IS IT” moment.  I tried on over 50 dresses and then randomly went to a trunk show with one of my bridesmaids – tried on 3 dresses, on the 3rd I said “I don’t want to take this off, I love it, let’s buy it”.  

Depending on where you go and the consultant, let them grab some dresses for you.  If they’re a good consultant, they know what will look best on your body, even if it’s not what you originally envisioned!  I thought FOR SURE I would get a-line, but ended up with a trumpet.

Post # 4
Member
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I never had that moment either.

I went to like 7 stores and at each store, I found a dress I fell in love with. Seriously. I knew I couldn’t possibly wear 7 dresses so I just picked the least expensive one. It ended up being perfect!

Look round a bit more, try on EVERYTHING and hopefully you’ll have that moment. If not, it’s okay!

Post # 5
Member
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

You definitely are not the only one, my “moment” consisted of me saying, this is what I wanted, it looks good on me, it’s my favorite that I’ve tried on, sold.  No crazy excitement or tears, I was just confident in my choice.

Post # 6
Member
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I hear ya. I actually tried on dresses for the first time a few months ago, and I felt so blah that it totally discouraged me from the whole dress craze. 

I am over wedding planning already. 

Post # 7
Member
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I felt the same way. I hate trying on clothes anyway so after the whole “omg I’m trying on wedding dresses!” feeling went away after the first time I looked, I was over it. I went to NINE stores and found several that I thought were pretty but nothing that I felt I had to have. I felt like I almost could tear up once but it wasn’t even the dress I ended up going with! By the time, I got my dress I was so tired of looking I think I just got something b/c the thought of having to go to another store made me want to throw up!

Post # 8
Member
8422 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I  thought I wouldn’t but I kept trying on dresses….8 different stores 50-60 dresses…… Then……. BAM I had that moment that I never thought I would. As soon as the sales lady asked me what I thought I started crying. Not everyone has it so don’t worry about it too much. But I do think you’ll have at least a gut feeling when you find the one! As many people say you just don’t want to take it off! Good luck in finding ” the one” 

Post # 9
Member
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m a bit different in that I was really excited about trying on dresses and I thought I would be hysterical when I found the one – but turns out, I never had that OMG moment.  I liked it, I bought it, that was it.  My dad cried a bit, which was wonderful, but I didn’t have the “angels singing” moment.  That being said, I look at pictures of my dress all the time and “visit” it when I go to my parents’ house.  I can’t wait to wear it!  So, while you might not initially have that “bridal moment,” you may surprise yourself down the line.

Post # 10
Member
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

Yeah, I haven’t had that moment yet either. I’ve had the “I don’t want to take it off” feeling, but the dress was just outside my budget.  I’m now considering having a dress made.

I think I watch WAY too much ‘Say Yes to The Dress” and I expect that everyone has that “bridal moment” that they talk about all the time. Not everyone does!

It’s just too much pressure!Frown

Post # 11
Member
3415 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

I agree with PP.  I tried on lots of dresses and I got to the one I purchased and was like “I love it.  To me it felt like a wedding dress and I wanted to wear it home.

Post # 12
Member
1031 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I said the same thing.  I tried on tons of dresses at 4 different boutiques and started to give up on the “am I going to have the aha moment?”.  I found a few top contenders but nothing that made me say YES THIS IS IT.  I took a break from dress shopping for about 2 weeks.  One night my mom and I randomly when to a bridal boutique and guess what … I had *the moment*.  The only way I can describe it is … as I looked at myself in the mirror all I could think about is how beautiful I looked and pictured myself walking down the aisle to my Fiance (no other dress made me feel this way).  I don’t know what came over me … I started to tear up.  I know sounds corny but it happend!  As I walked out the dressing room my mom said “still nothing?” and I looked at her and said “I had the moment!  This is the dress!”.  So don’t give up, you will know when you’ve found the one.  Good luck!

Post # 13
Member
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think that too many people go into it expecting tears and heaven and earth to move (we can blame TV shows for that). I think there comes a point when you just know that you have found the dress. I don’t think it’s excessive to go to a lot of stores, I feel that brides that do not go through that process end up with dress regret. Each dress you try on will get you closer to THE dress. Keep looking, when you find it, you will know.

Post # 14
Member
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I never had *the moment* while I was shopping either – I saw lots that I liked and had a few favourites, and struggled to pick. For me, completely unexpectedly, my moment was when I had my first fitting. After 6 months of wondering if I had picked right, twinges of dress regret, completely forgetting what the dress looked like, I stepped out of the dressing room, looked in the mirror and burst into tears! I think it was partly excitement and partly relief that I had chosen right after all and it was a lovely dress, and it was very “me”. It’s a long time to wait between deciding on a dress and your first fitting and it’s plenty of time to worry!! Don’t feel pressured to have that big moment, lots of people don’t. I read a brilliant piece of advice once by a writer for the Guardian newspaper – she wasn’t writing about wedding dresses but I think it applies anyway. She basically said that when you are shopping for a dress, you know it’s right when you look yourself in the eye in the mirror, and take the whole picture in. If you are fussing with straps, and pulling at seams, and wondering if this bit would look better if it was different, or that bit isn’t quite right, and basically looking at teh parts but not the whole…then it’s not the dress for you. The right dresses will make you stand up straighter and look yourself in the eye in the mirror with approval.

Post # 15
Member
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have now tried on over 60 dresses and I still haven’t had the momoent. I think I was so convinced it was going to happen that I really never even gave some of the dresses a fair evaluation. I have taken a break from the dress thing for awhile and now I am ready to go back at it again by myself in a more analytical (sounds cold doesn’t it?) way. I am going to narrow it down to two dresses, show my Mom, pick and accept that the angels might never sing…

Post # 16
Member
2863 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I never had the moment either. I tried on tons of dresses and when I found my dress I didn’t cry for get all excited. I was like ” Okay, this one is in my budget, looks good on me and nothing has looked better. This is it!” Pretty simple 🙂 Not everyone thinks the dress is the most important thing or gets all emotional. I went into it wanting something that made my body look killer, not something to make me cry. 

The topic ‘Not so sure I will have "the moment" for the dress.’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors