(Closed) Not so sure I will have "the moment" for the dress.

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I didn’t have the ahhh moment either; I just recently bought my dress though. I love it and thought it looked the best on me. No tears LOL.

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t have that moment you see on TV where the girls cry and all that stuff. I knew it was the one when I seriously didn’t want to take it off! Funny thing, the consultant told me that’s the feeling majority of girls get and the crying stuff is normally just for those shows. Then again, I’m just not the type of person to cry about those things…I didn’t cry when my parents bought me my truck, horses, or even when my Fiance proposed so I pretty much knew that wasn’t going to happen with the dress.

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I didn’t have it either.  But I might cry when I get to actually pick mine up and try it on and buy a veil to go with it!

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I didn’t have “that” feeling either. I also wasn’t very excited to go shopping, I just wanted to pick a dress and have it overwith! For me, having my mom there to give her opinion was what made the difference in helping me find a dress that I truly love.

Be open minded about what you try, from the beginning I insisted on NO poof, I wanted a sheath dress that was simple. A poofy A-line caught my eye at the last store (you know where this is going…) and it ended up being my dress!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I never had the moment either. I was on a budget and a time crunch, I’m not super into clothes anyway, I don’t like shopping, and I don’t like being the center of attention. I bought one dress from ebay that didn’t fit and was returned, bought my dress, had dress regret (oh yes, it’s in the boards), bought another dress literally days before the wedding that also didn’t fit and was returned.

At the end of the day, I bought the dress because it fit certain criteria (price, looked good on me, straps, and I could move around in it easily). Now, I see my pictures and see that my dress was perfect for me and for our wedding.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

not me either. i had to go home and look and look and look at pics to determine which ones i like. i dont trust the mirror AT ALL.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I never had one of those emotional moments either. Everyone loved the dress on me and I didn’t want to take it off, I really liked it, but didn’t actually buy it right away. I had an AA dress I had been eyeing online, I went and tried that one on after, liked it as well. Me and my girls went to look at Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and a girl was preparing to try on the dress I hadn’t wanted to take off. I realized I didn’t want to see another girl in it, and went and ordered it. 

I loved both dresses and they were the same price,  but at the other shop that had the AA dress I liked, I just didn’t hesitate to take it off, I’m happy with my dress choice and can’t wait to wear it.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I really enjoyed trying dresses on and tried a LOT of them on. I really loved the one I chose, and so did my mom, but there wasn’t a happy-cry “I’m a briiiiiiiide” moment.

What there WAS, however, was leaving the shop with my mom and I both totally psyched that there were at least two contenders that I felt really good in (I’m plus-sized, so this was a victory) …and then coming back (after many dresses), choosing between my two favorites and feeling a calm sense of certainty and resolve.

So…there was a generalized “hell yes” moment about dresses in general and a specific “I’ve got this” moment. Please don’t buy a dress about which you feel “meh,” but you don’t have to have a “the one, sob sob” moment either. 🙂

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I did not have “the moment” either.  Also, my friends were more excited about another dress, but I still ended up choosing the dress that I thought was right for me.  Maybe I would have reacted differently if my mother was alive and there with me, but I’m not sure.  I’m really not a super emotionally type of person anyways.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

First off.. it took me a little over a year to find my dress, and each shopping trip to me became more and more like torute! I felt like i was not going to have “the moment” either. And then in steps a dress that i tried on (on a whim mind youm the sales consultant said i should give a go before leaving) and when i tried on the dress… it just clicked! I just loved the way it looked when i tried it on (before i saw myself that is) and then when i imagined walking down the isle in it everything got so real.

But i think that each bride is different. You will know which one you want… maybe all it will take is stepping out of the box like i did!

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was actually weirded out and overwhelmed the first time I walked into a bridal salon.  It was very surreal that I was the bride about to try on a wedding dress.

Thankfully my first visit was great but I actually got quite caught up in the thought that ‘this is the only dress of this type that I ever intend to wear’ so I ended up being too focused on the minute details so nothing ever was perfect enough to have that “moment”. 

It also didn’t help that there are some sales people out there that will throw a veil on you and go “ohhhhh” *weepy face* to try and solicit a tear from you.  Needless to say that only made me wanna take the dress off!

I never did have that tear-filled moment but I will say after I’d picked out my dress I remember being in the changing room taking one last look and thinking “Wow! This is what my guy will see me in the day we’re married….damn I think I’m gonna cry!” lol. 

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I never had it either!  Kind of like potential mates, I don’t believe there is the ONE!  Several dresses will actually do.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@HulaGirl1977:  im with u.

like, i like trying on dresses and they all look so pretty, but as far as how they make me feel…i just go numb usually. and then i have to go home and think about it alot.

Post # 30
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

TV plays the dress shopping up so much. I don’t believe it’s like that in real life. I certainly didn’t break down crying nor did anyone I went with. That just not us… if you find a dress that looks beautiful on you then it’s a winner whether you cry or not. 

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