(Closed) Not spending enough time together… long-ish

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am sorry you and Darling Husband are going through this.  How is Darling Husband occupying his time right now?  You have obviously done a fantastic job keeping yourself busy in the past.  Perhaps you two should look at things you can do together to remind Darling Husband that you do dedicate time and attention to him?

Post # 4
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645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

What’s he doing and what can you both do to get on the same schedule? Something as simple as making sure you eat one meal a day together/every Wednesday go for a walk/weekends have date night. Make time for time!

Post # 5
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741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m always the one complaining I’m not spending enough time with my Fiance. I think you should take the initiative to make some plans for you two to do fun things together, I’m sure he would really appreciate it. Hopefully having some couple time in place will help, especially because you both have to readjust the dynamics of your relationship. And no, don’t quit school or your job, he’s just going to have to deal with that….

Post # 8
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741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@globalmargaret:  That is more than understandable, and in a perfect world he wouldn’t get upset…but at the same time I know what it’s like to be left alone with not a lot to do while my Fiance works, and then works overtime while I get stir crazy. I’m not saying he is right by any means, but it’s about compromising – if he sees that you are making the effort to spend quality time with him, hopefully his needs for that will be better met and he’ll be more kind to you in return, if that makes sense….

There is a great book which was recommended on this site a lot called the 5 Love Languages. It was a great book for me to read to better understand the dynamics of my relationship, and you might be interested as well. 

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