Post # 1
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Bumble bee
Ok, so: I’m short, as in my 6th grade students are much taller than me, short.
Every time I attend a wedding, I completely miss the bride coming down the aisle. 🙁 Picture this: crowded church, everyone stands, and all I can see is the back of everyone’s head. Typical wedding.
At my wedding, I’m planning to have the pastor announce, “As requested by the bride who has never once seen another bride walk down the aisle because she is so short, please remain seated.”
I think it gives the guests a chance to actually see what’s going on. What do you think?
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
I think it sounds good bc I am also very short. However, speaking from past weddings I never cared that much if I didnt see her at that moment bc I would see her a million times afterward.
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
It’s kind of rude to tell adults how to act. They’ll see you at the front and during the ceremony so I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I don’t think it’s a good idea so that they can see you (some will have heads in their way no matter what they do) but because it’s pretty funny, and it’ll probably get a giggle out of your guests. And I think guests enjoy a good giggle during the ceremony, it breaks some of the tension. That being said, also consider the photos that will be taken as you come down… You may not be able to see all your guests in those particular photos (but plenty more chances of that anyway!!)
I say go for it! It will be one of those things that makes your wedding yours, and no one else’s 🙂 just make sure the pastor can say it with a smile on his face.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I think it’s fine to make the request.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
@AlwaysSunny: I would like to know more about why you think it’s rude. Do you think we should also avoid asking guests to stand for certain parts of ceremony (Gospel reading), etc? I don’t want to offend anyone.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
I think it would be cute and kind of funny. If you explained it like you do here, I can’t imagine anyone minding, since you are requesting this for a legitimate reason as opposed to just being bossy because you can because you’re the bride.
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
They’ll see you at the front! So I wouldn’t be too worried about them seeing you walking down the aisle!
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
@AllShookUp: lol I can certain relate to the tension at weddings! Most of my family has big, Catholic ceremonies with 400+ guests. Awkward in so many ways. lol Good point about the pictures. Do you think they won’t be as nice if guests are sitting?
I was also thinking that we have a TINY church. It holds around 125 and we’re expecting people to have to stand in the back if everyone shows! I worry the photographer won’t be able to take pictures if everyone stands because she’ll HAVE to stand in the center aisle and block my groom’s view!
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
it is certainly not rude! i know that you can’t dictate how adults behave, but you can definitely ask them to remain seated, why would anyone mind?
Post # 12
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Honey bee
I like the idea of making the request, but I don’t think it’s super funny. At the end of the day though it’s not my wedding and if you feel comfortable with it then go for it. I hope that doesn’t sound rude, I just mean I like the idea behind the request, but maybe not worded exactly like it is here.
Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
Honestly I think people will stand up anyways. I would find it a rather odd request.
Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
I have never pictured guests standing when I come down the aisle. I think if the officiant doesn’t say “please rise” or whatever, people would remain sitting and then you wouldn’t need to make any announcement.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
@Westwood: I wondered if they would do it anyways!
@star_dust: I actually never intended to be funny in the first place! lol I’m genuinly bummed that I missed all of my cousins coming down the aisle 🙁 Do you have any ideas for better wording? I love the input 🙂
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
@Westwood: who would stand up after somebody saying out loud “the bride doesn’t want you to stand up”?
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