(Closed) not supportive at all

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why does anyone still bother talking to this aunt?  If she’s negative and unsupportive, don’t be around her, don’t talk to her, don’t share your plans/hopes/dreams with her.

Post # 4
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree! Just ignore her. She doesn’t need to be involved with planning or anything.

Post # 6
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you are old enough to get married, then you are old enough to tell your aunt to STFU and that you will have your wedding how and when you want. Unless your aunt is paying for the wedding, she has no right to say anything or dictate anything about it. Really – do not let this woman treat you the miserable way she has done since you were a child. You are an adult now and you no longer have to take it.

Post # 8
1540 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

if shes acting like this, I wouldn’t invite her to the wedding


Post # 9
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kissed_by_lightning:  Well keep it up! Once she figures out you are no longer willing to be a passive victim, she will let up! Oh she will talk badly about you to others, but I suspect she does that already about multiple family members. If you can not come up with a comeback – simply say ” I am an adult now and there is absolutely no reason why I need to put up with your BS anymore.” You can only be a victim if you ALLOW yourself to be one. And if she gets really hot, you can toss in that she is NOT welcomed to attend your wedding.


Ubber nasty people like that end up being left totally alone.

Post # 10
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

This is exactly what I would say (please know I’m not about confrontation unless its completely necessary) “Aunt bitch (or whatever her name is) I know that for some reason you are generally angry in life and jealous of what I have, but this is my wedding and supposed to be the happiest time in my life. Your snide and cruel comments are beginning to take a toll on me, and if I have to continue to hear your bs you are not going to be involved in my wedding. I dont know what happened to you to make you dislike me and my fiancé so much, but please keep your inappropriate comments and cruelty to yourself Or know that you will be discluded.” I would take her aside to say this. 


also- know that we bees have your back!

Post # 11
3026 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Good for you for standing up and calling her out on her hypocrisy. Keep it up and maybe she’ll quit.

I’m so sorry it makes your grandmother ill when your aunt behaves like that. It’s just unexcusable behavior.

Post # 15
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

It sounds like she’s a very unhappy and unreasonable woman. Sorry you have to put up with that. She should just be ignored by your entire family or at the very least not taken seriously. Don’t let her get to you!


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