(Closed) Not sure how much longer i can really wait to plan this wedding

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I started planning more than a year and a half out! I say go for it! Make sure you still go in a logical order (figure out a formality level before picking a dress, etc.) and don’t make any rash purchases, but it’s totally okay to start planning early. And the more time you have the more you can make it personalized and for a lower cost! I can understand your mom’s not getting into it just yet, so don’t push her too much. But you can certainly plan on your own!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I say go ahead and start looking.  Places start to book at about a year to a year and a half out so I think that it is time to start.  While it is nice to bring your mom, if she is unwilling then you can always go with FH by yourselves.

As for the wedding being two hours away, don’t let that bother you too much.  Lots of brides plan for afar. I am planning my Florida wedding from New York.  I have never even been to the venue that we booked!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I didn’t! My wedding date was originally April 2013 for an Out of Town wedding that was 2 hrs away but then in a flash I changed my mind. It was mainly the stress of planning an Out of Town but I moved the date up to this Nov, the Sat after Thanksgiving was the ONLY date we could do if we wanted it down here. Sure we had to lower our budget and expectations but in the end, it will be the same result. We will be Happily married!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Since we are in a heavy metro area and wanted to get married at a very popular venue, we started booking everything back in January for our September 2013 wedding. Now we are pretty much done. I wish we would have spaced some stuff out, but my Fiance wanted to be the early planner. I will say that it is nice to know how much we need to save up and to not have to worry about it later. Instead, we get to sit back and enjoy our time and work on smaller details.

I will say that I do regret buying my dress so soon. I vote waiting on that one.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

A year and a half is definitely not too soon to look for venues. These are the first to book, and it will set the entire tone of your wedding. Then, you’ll be able to figure out what sort of mood you want, what kind of dress is appropriate for the venue, etc. etc. Popular places book up sometimes more than a year in advance.

I’m having an 8 month engagement and was incredibly lucky to find the venues I wanted with that sort of time frame, and I’m cutting it close on a dress that’s supposed to come in just a few weeks before the wedding (it takes 6-8 months). On the other hand, my friend who got engaged Christmas 2011 and is getting married August 2013 already has her venues, catering, DJ, photographer, etc. lined up even though she’s still got more than a year to go.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i’m two years out from my wedding, and i’ve been planning for a while. i’m a list maker, i already have lists of venues, florists, and caterers. and i’ve been dress shopping. i haven’t made concrete decisions yet, but i have options. things around here get booked a year in advance, which is why i started planning so soon.

it’s never too early to start. the more time you give yourself, the less stressed you’ll be. that’s my theory, at least.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I started planning pretty much as soon as we set our date. Places around here book up pretty quickly and I wanted to make sure we got our first choice on everything. Start getting ideas now and finding out availability.

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I started looking for venues right away – and when he proposed it was around the year and a half mark. I booked the church and venue right away (those book up fast!) And then I started on the DIY projects, I started looking at dresses and just had fun with the process. I ended up buying my dress 1 year out and ended up buying the first one I tried on. I may have tried it on first but I still tried on many, many more and had fun in the dress process before actually buy the one I loved. Now that I’m 6 months out, and that year went by in what feels like 3 weeks, I am so glad I got a lot of the stuff done early. Don’t wait, start planning!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We started planning about a year out, and we’re planning from about 10 hours away!  I say it’s never too early to start, especially if you are looking for a specific date or a venue in high demand.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mattsgirl813: Good plan.

Based on what @ohmybears48 said, it might make sense to make a timeline of when you want to do what. I essentially laid out what I want to do each month up until my wedding. For example, this month, I’m booking a florist and cake and registering. Last month, it was Bridesmaid dresses, DJ, and ceremony music. That way, you get things done in a logical order and make sure you space things out to avoid making rash decisions and regretting them later. Your first couple months can be looking at potential venues, choosing a wedding party, and building an inspiration board maybe?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I started planning right away, when we first got engaged. We’ve been engaged about a month and a half now, with 14ish more months to go and we’ve already booked the venue, church, DJ, photographer, and photobooth. I’m so type-A, I want to have it done, and early, so I can relax. 

I say go for it! It’s never too early!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mattsgirl813: where in MI are you getting married? We are getting married end of June next summer in Charlevoix. Since it’s busy wedding season, especially in northern MI, we have already booked our venue, DJ, photographer and have a tasting set with the potential caterer this summer.  It’s not too early to start!  Especially if you are in an area that is popular for weddings!

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