Post # 1
Okay, ladies been married for a month and a half…so we have been going through his stuff of paper work and he came across some sheet of paper where it had two different lips outlined…he showed it to me i guess two of his friends left it for him few years ago when he was single…on the note it said for him…he asked me if he should throw it away i said yes you are a married man but he said no…I know one of the girls she is really sweet and they have only been friends, she is in another state…the other one is in anotehr country does not keep in touch with her…When he said no he was going to keep it for memories I just kept quiet and didnt say anything not sure what i should think of the situation…its nothing i might be overreating but dont like hte idea of him keeping that sheet of paper where it has someone elsess lips especially marreid…So you guys tell me if I am wrong or right? thanks ladies
Post # 3
That is really bizarre. I mean, it’s not like it’s from his grandmother.
Post # 4
not that i would be happy about it.. but i can understand.. later in life he will see that and remember that time in his life and one would hope remember how good he has it now, how happy he is… it could be worse you could find a box of things from an x girlfriend that there was emotional attachment with and he could be holding onto that..
Post # 5
It’s just lips on a sheet of paper, imo. I wouldn’t make a big deal of it.
Post # 6
@KIKI25: Well if there has truly never been anything between them i would say it is harmless for him to keep it. But I know it would still bother me if he kept it. if there was ever a thought that there was something more than just friendship I would hate for him to keep something like that. Just make sure you husband clearly understands your feelings and wants and hopefully he will try and honor them.
Post # 7
@KIKI25: Eh, just take a breather. I understand where you’re coming from, but it’s nothing that’s too personal/sexy/etc.
Post # 8
He’s with you, so you win 🙂 just let it go
Post # 9
Eh, just let him keep it. I have old “things” too but it doesn’t make me love my Fiance any less.
Unless he like, takes the napkin out and creepily smells it or something weird, I’d say it’s no biggie. 🙂
Post # 10
Mhm, I wouldn’t want my Fiance having “lips” from any girl than me. What ever reason, I do understand that everybody has history but to be honest, why is it so important in keeping anyways? He is married to you now and should focus on that than having another womans lips lurking about in your home.
Post # 11
I would let it go, but six months down the road, clean out some papers and “accidentally” put it in the toss pile… oops! If he doesn’t look at it every day, or think about it often, then he shouldn’t miss it, right?
And if he does, then he has some ‘splainin to do.
Post # 12
lol Omg I would hav flipped, im not crazy but- Im his wife, i dont care how nice that girl is, she can be nic to her man — but for my man, Im his only lips lol, so id expect him to throw it out.
Post # 13
if this is me, because im loud and a bit of a ball breaker, i wouldnt let it go – if a kiss on a piece of paper means so much to him then he can have a card with my kiss on it if it helps him sleep at night.
if he wants some other womans kiss on a card then he can go live with them i guess – yes its “only” a sheet of paper with lipstick on it but how would he feel if you kept other guys emails or phone numbers or heartfelt cards???
Post # 15
@eloping:I definitely agree with your thought!
Post # 16
uh i would be mad that he’s keeping it coz why did he even bother asking if he should throw it away