(Closed) Not Sure how to accept the situation!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

That is really bizarre.  I mean, it’s not like it’s from his grandmother.  

Post # 4
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

not that i would be happy about it.. but i can understand.. later in life he will see that and remember that time in his life and one would hope remember how good he has it now, how happy he is… it could be worse you could find a box of things from an x girlfriend that there was emotional attachment with and he could be holding onto that..

Post # 5
3522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It’s just lips on a sheet of paper, imo. I wouldn’t make a big deal of it. 

Post # 6
856 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KIKI25: Well if there has truly never been anything between them i would say it is harmless for him to keep it. But I know it would still bother me if he kept it. if there was ever a thought that there was something more than just friendship I would hate for him to keep something like that. Just make sure you husband clearly understands your feelings and wants and hopefully he will try and honor them. 

Post # 7
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@KIKI25: Eh, just take a breather.  I understand where you’re coming from, but it’s nothing that’s too personal/sexy/etc. 

Post # 8
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

He’s with you, so you win 🙂 just let it go

Post # 9
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Eh, just let him keep it.  I have old “things” too but it doesn’t make me love my Fiance any less.

Unless he like, takes the napkin out and creepily smells it or something weird, I’d say it’s no biggie. 🙂

Post # 10
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Mhm, I wouldn’t want my Fiance having “lips” from any girl than me. What ever reason, I do understand that everybody has history but to be honest, why is it so important in keeping anyways? He is married to you now and should focus on that than having another womans lips lurking about in your home.

Post # 11
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I would let it go, but six months down the road, clean out some papers and “accidentally” put it in the toss pile… oops!  If he doesn’t look at it every day, or think about it often, then he shouldn’t miss it, right?  Wink


And if he does, then he has some ‘splainin to do.

Post # 12
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

lol Omg I would hav flipped, im not crazy but- Im his wife, i dont care how nice that girl is, she can be nic to her man — but for my man, Im his only lips lol, so id expect him to throw it out.

Post # 13
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

if this is me, because im loud and a bit of a ball breaker, i wouldnt let it go – if a kiss on a piece of paper means so much to him then he can have a card with my kiss on it if it helps him sleep at night.

if he wants some other womans kiss on a card then he can go live with them i guess – yes its “only” a sheet of paper with lipstick on it but how would he feel if you kept other guys emails or phone numbers or heartfelt cards??? 

Post # 16
244 posts
Helper bee

uh i would be mad that he’s keeping it coz why did he even bother asking if he should throw it away

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