- Ms Mini
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
Me and Darling Husband found out about something really unfortunate that was said at our wedding, and I am not sure how to address it.
Background: DH’s grandma is a rude and judgemental person, she can be alright to talk to in general, but she gets really judgemental and says some really nasty things to people. His family has a tendency to cover for her, apologize to the offended party, but then to not address her behaviour with her. She does it to everyone, and has no friends in her seniors complex due to her behaviour.
My sisters were my bridesmaids in my wedding, I am about a size 16 on top because I am very busty (12 on the bottom), my younger sister is super slim about a size 6, and my youngest sister is about a 22 – but she is the most athletic of the 3 of us. My youngest sister has always struggled with her weight despite healthy eating, training at a provincial level to play rugby 5 times per week, and running 10km races on a regular basis. My parents are average sized, although my dad trains martial arts on a competitive level so he is quite muscular, which I guess could appear big in a suit.
My DH’s grandma has never met any member of my family before, she had not had a chance to be introduced to anyone yet when it came time for family pictures. She approached my sisters and said to my slimmer sister “How did you get so skinny?” while looking around at me, and my parents. My youngest sister who has always struggled with her weight was standing right there and heard it all. This was moments after the ceremony.
Darling Husband is livid – we already wrote our thank you card for her gift, so although his first instinct was to tear up the thank you and replace it with a scathing letter, I convinced him to tear into her in a thank you note was inappropriate. My youngest sister has always been awesome to us, she knew about our relationship and met Darling Husband first, has spent the most time with us as a couple, always stands up for us, and had babysat our dog, came up early to help us decorate, and is always there for us to vent to about the family when we need to. She is a really sweet and funny person, and she did not deserve to be blindsided like that by a nasty old woman.
I am not sure how we can approach this. Darling Husband has made it clear that we will not be letting this slide. The fact that her first words to my family were a slap in the face to most of us was just disgusting.
He wants to tell her that due to her behaviour towards the family, that she is not welcome to take part in any joint family events in the future (ie if we host Christmas, when we have a baby etc where my family will be present she will not be welcome).
What do you guys think?