Post # 1
Ok so some of you my remember me as (mkern183) I was the girl who’s future sister inlaw got engaged one week before me, and is getting married four months after me and is upset that I want to have my bridesmaids wear long black dresses after she had already planned her wedding with her bridesmaids wear short black dresses. So I tried working this out with her and told her I was going to have four girls wear black and three girls wear blue dresses, however that is not what I WANT! Now I don’t know if I should break the news to her again or if I should just take her with me to the dress fitting and let it out then? Her mother which will be my furture mother in-law is not happy with my decision to go with long black dresses either. This really sucks because I don’t think its a big deal that she is making it out to be and I’m not sure how to handle it. Do I sit then down and talk to them about it? Or do I just go on with my planning and let them deal with my decisions? Any advise would be much appreciated 🙂
Post # 3
You’re not wrong for doing black dresses in the first place, but you shouldn’t have agreed to do black and blue dresses if you were not going to go through with it.
Post # 4
You let them deal with your decisions. Its a color for god sakes, its not like your wearing the same wedding dress as her. You shouldn’t have to settle on something you’re not happy with just because her bridesmaids are wearing the same color.
ETA: And they’re black! It’s not like its some very specific shade of orange or pink or whatever. Do your FIL’s realize how many BP’s wear black?
Post # 5
I would sit down and talk with them about it. You could explain how you always had wanted long black dresses for your wedding just as much as she probably wants to have short black dresses for hers. It is not fair for you to have to change your wedding dreams to appease her considering your wedding is 4 months before hers. I honestly don’t think anyone is going to remember that you had black dresses in your wedding. You could also discuss how bridesmaids wearing black is fairly trendy. I don’t know I just think that is ridiculous! I am getting married in March and my FI’s cousin who got engaged after me and is getting married after me as well (in June) chose the same wedding colors as I did. I don’t own them and I could care less that see is using them. She does not own the concept of black bridesmaids dresses. If all else fails, tell her to shove it. I’m just kidding, but really best of luck to you! 🙂
Post # 6
Sit down with them and have a talk
After all, these people are going to be relatives and you have to get along.
I still think though that you shuld carry on and plan your wedding as you would like it to be. Just let them know.
Post # 7
Thank you ladies! All your advise is really helpful. I will figure out away to tell them. I’m taking the rest of the girls with me to try on the dress and they are really excited about my ideas, I just wasn’t sure if i should include my future sister inlaw’s when we go. I was thinking of going seperately so that if she wanted to freak out about it again she would ruin my good time with the rest of my bridesmaids. If you have anymore advise that would be great, thanks again
Post # 8
Because two brides have never had similar dresses at their weddings?
Give me a break. Your SIL gets ONE day and so do you. Do what you want. Just remind your SIL that imitation is the most sincere form of flattery.