(Closed) Not sure how to approach this suspicion?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

menopaws3 :  my concern is that either he has logged on to you facebool on purpose to monitor you, or you logged on to the Facebook yourself (long enough ago that you’ve forgotten doing it) and he hasn’t signed you out so he can monitor you… it would be irritating to be getting notifications for this long for someone else’s facebook so I can’t see why he wouldn’t have signed you out by now unless he chose not to do he can a what you’re doing. 

Also watch out, I have a relative who found out her boyfriend had downloaded a hidde  app on to her phone which sent all her texts to him so he could secretly read them… if he’s in your FB he could be in other stuff too

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

tealboxwhiteribbon1 :  does your sister know you’re using her Facebook though? There’s a biy difference between using someone’s FB with permission and using it without their knowledge 

Post # 18
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You can check where your Facebook is currently logged into if you go into the security settings. If you do find out your page is logged on on his phone I would ask him why. You don’t need to sound accusatory just tell him you noticed that his phone is logged on through the security settings and ask him to log it out. 

Even if you did happen to leave it logged in (and don’t remember) he should have said something when the notifications occurred.

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

I might be wrong, but in order to get actual notifications from facebook, you have to be logged into the facebook app with notifications turned on, not just logged into the site on a webpage… So unless he has the app for whatever reason, and is logged into your facebook page without realizing… seems like he’s checking up on you. I might be wrong though. I would check the ‘open sessions’ thing on FB first, just to be sure. then just say what PP said “hey SO, i noticed the other night that your phone was going off every time I got a FB message. Can i see your phone? I think i might be accidentally logged in on there” 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Is there anything in particular that you wouldn’t want him to see?  No?  Otherwise, I’d let it go. It’s nice to be aware of it, but women do that too.  You already said that he had an ex who cheated, right?  So it’s not you, it’s that he has to build up trust.  Is that a problem?

Post # 21
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Busy bee

jess9090 :  Him looking at her Facebook account without her knowledge isn’t exactly a great way to go about building trust; if he has issues with her he should be able to speak to her candidly about that, no? This seems like an invasion of privacy, whether it’s a man or woman doing it.

Post # 22
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Honey bee

jess9090 :  So it’s ok to invade someone’s privacy if you have trust issues? 

Its not just OP’s privacy he’s invading…if he’s reading her messages, he’s also invading the privacy of any friend who sends her a message thinking only OP will see it.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

jess9090 :  Yes, that’s a problem. If she hasn’t given him a reason not to trust him, he has no right to secretly log in to her facebook, if that’s what he’s doing.

Post # 27
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

menopaws3 :  Is there any reason you can’t just straight up ask him about this?  I think I’d have already mentioned it the first time I noticed it. 

Post # 28
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Honey bee

menopaws3 :  Does it say the type of device? I would screenshot it and show it to him if he insists he’s not logged in. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

menopaws3 :  the thing about the sister was a reply to tealboxwhiteribbon1’s post 

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