Post # 1
I have one older sister. Shes not married and actually has never even had a boyfriend. She was recently suppose to be adopting a little girl who we were going to use as our flower girl but it ended up not working out do to health problems. So now she doesnt have a job, no bf or husband, and no hope for having kids so has been going through a lot mentally lately. i hate to say it but i kinda feel bad that being the younger sister that im getting married before her. our mom even said when i was younger she thought i would get married first. i have her as my Maid/Matron of Honor but as shes the only one of my bridesmaids thats not married and has never even been in a wedding, she doesnt really know what to do.i asked one of my other girls to kind of be a second Maid/Matron of Honor ish and help her out. plus she lives near me where my sister lives like 4 hours away. i just dont know how to deal with my sister tho. i feel like if i mention wedding stuff it will make her feel bad and i dont want to add to her stress but she is my Maid/Matron of Honor. anyone have any advice for me?
Post # 3
@jbbs1222: I advise to not expect any wedding help from her at all. So long as she’s got her dress and available on your wedding day, that is enough. And then she can stand in the Maid/Matron of Honor position – not because she helped with your wedding, but because she’s your sister.
In fact, no Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid is required to help with your wedding. It’s nice if they do of course, but not obligatory.
Post # 4
Ive been trying not to mention wedding things as much as possible. When it gets closer Ill probably have to tho. Plus her and our mom along with that other bridesmaid are planning my bridal shower eventually so she’ll have to be involved there too. I dont expect her to help with anything really. On the day or maybe the day before sure. And i asked the other 2 bridesmaids to help coordinate the food cause were doing a potluck kind of dinner so there helping me keep it organized.
Post # 5
I would agree with Paula that you probably shouldn’t expect a whole lot of help from her. Have her as your Maid/Matron of Honor for pictures and as a nice gesture but plan the wedding stuff with your other bridesmaids who live close enough to help & who aren’t dealing with as much stress. Be kind and compassionate to your sister she is proably going through a lot.