(Closed) Not sure how to feel

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


Whoa- wall of text there.

 First of all. BREATH!!!

Second. It’s ok. It’s going to be ok. I know when you’re in the heat of the moment-it might seem like the end of the world. But lets look at the positives here

Your man realized how much he means to you

He proposed

He PROPOSED (lets say it again becasue it’s amazing)

He got over his commitment fear and wants to be with you FOREVER


Ok, so you don’t like the ring.You have options. You can

1. ask if you can go shopping TOGETHER and purchase an “upgrade”

2. Shop for your wedding band and pick out something amazing


Really, as a former waiting bee (known here as girls waiting for an engagement) proposals are the hard emotional part. The ring is just the symbol.


Like I said. Breath. It’s ok

Post # 4
7225 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To me, a ring is a ring is a ring. I can say I would be legitimately over the moon if my So had proposed to me with *anything*.

If you’re unhappy, I suggest buying your own ring. Otherwise, I’d learn to love the one you have.

It does sound like he was bullied, but that would be better known by you than any of us. I only have to go on to form an opinion of what I’ve read.

Post # 5
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Cost of the ring is a touchy subject. A plastic ring is almost offensive, I get that, but if you know how tight-fisted he is with money, did you expect much else? 
The biggest part of this is that you’re engaged. He proposed. Would you trade that for a huge rock? Probably not. 
I’d tell him your feelings about the ring, but if anything, buy yourself a nicer ring if it matters that much to you and he is unwilling to bend. After all, it’s going on your finger so you might as well like it and avoid turning your skin green!

Post # 6
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Congrats!! It doesn’t sound like you bullied him into it at all. I’m sure in some way he doesn’t want to fight about it anymore but clearly he already had things planned so I wouldn’t harp on it. Are you sure that he actually meant this PLASTIC ring as your real ring? I mean, being “tight-fisted” is one thing but since when do people wear plastic jewelry? I dont know if you’ve asked him about it but perhaps he just didn’t want to buy something legit without you being there because it’s a big deal. My Fiance definitely could never ever pick out a ring on his own because spending that much money without my input is way too far out of his comfort zone. But seriously, there’s no way he actually thinks you’re going to wear a plastic ring around! I agree that maybe you should just get a really nice band and end it at that!

Post # 8
29 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014


I understand being tight about money and all but if he spends more on the drinks that got you drunk than on the “symbol” of love that you need to wear on your hand all the time…then thats where I dont understand it.


Yes, you should be happy you are engaged and you know he is right for you but being tight with money doesnt warrant a $10 ring. Even if he spent some at the pawn shop like you said. This ring should last a lifetime…will the plastic even hold up? Maybe approach it to him that way. Ask if you guys can get one together. Even sometime small or on sale…just say you want something metal that is permanent and durable…


Just remember to be happy you have found someone to be happy with. Never forget it

Post # 9
3 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ok I’m going to be completely honest. I would be out in a flash over a plastic ring. Where do you go about buying a plastic ring? Those quarter machines in the supermarket?

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