Post # 1
So my bachelorette party was supposed to be tomorrow, and due to Hurricane Irene my Maid/Matron of Honor and I decided to reschedule it. I’m 100% fine with this decision – 3 of my 4 bridesmaids live in CT, and while they could get here tomorrow morning without an issue, there is no telling when/how they could get home Saturday night or Sunday. I just don’t think it’s worth everyone driving themselves crazy or putting themselves in a bad situation since no one knows how bad/not a big deal this storm will be.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend and was heartbroken to do this, as she was so excited to throw the bachelorette (she’s really creative and thoughtful). I made sure to let her know that it wasn’t her fault, I totally understood, and we’d reschedule (even if it meant doing it after the wedding, since we all have booked schedules every weekend between now and the big day).
Unfortunately, one of my other bridesmaids laced into my Maid/Matron of Honor and said she was being ridiculous. This bridesmaid is the one local bridesmaid, and we were going to start our shenanigans at her place before going out with a bigger group. She told my Maid/Matron of Honor and later me that it was “crazy to cancel the bachelorette party for everyone when it was barely even going to rain in Boston”, which I think is not really likely anyways. My Maid/Matron of Honor is really hurt, upset, and doesn’t understand why this bridesmaid is so angry at her when she made sure this was all ok with me. Even when I told the bridesmaid it was fine, she yelled the same things at me.
Since it was ultimately my call – should I say something to this bridesmaid so she lays off my MOH? Or should I just let this die down and take it as a moment of craziness from my bridesmaid? I’d just hate for there to be a bunch of issues between people that have gotten along so well in the last 3 weeks before the wedding.
Thanks for the advice ladies!
Post # 3
I would call the bridesmaid and tell her it was your call to postpone, you made your decision, that’s it. Don’t let your Maid/Matron of Honor get beaten up over it.
In the Boston area, we’re supposed to get a lot of rain and wind but really, the traffic is going to be a nightmare and would you really want hung-over friends driving in awful conditions?
If your Bridesmaid or Best Man is still upset, offer to do dinner together instead, maybe she was just really looking forward to playing hostess or something.
But seriously, she needs to chill out.
Post # 4
@PinkPinstripes: Thanks for the sanity check! It was just blowing my mind that she was this angry. Not to sound self-involved, but I feel like if the bride is ok with it then it should kind of be ok for everyone. Disappointing sure, but fight-worthy? Doesn’t make sense. My other bridesmaids are teachers with their first day of school on Monday and one works at a hospital, so they can’t afford to get stuck up here all day Sunday if anything goes wrong – and I would never want someone driving in potentially scary storms on my account!
Post # 5
@LaMarie412: Postpone….Its a Hurricane and that is reason enough to do that. People’s safety is more important than anything
Post # 6
I’d give the Bridesmaid or Best Man a call and let talk it over with her. As long as you are ok with it she should be ok with it too! Sure, she won’t be inconvenienced if you didn’t reschedule because she’s in the same town but she needs to consider everyone else who is out of town. The Out of Town bridesmaids will be a lot more relaxed if you reschedule to sometime in the future so that they can just have fun instead of stressing out about whether they’ll be stranded away from home or not 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks ladies – I ended up calling the bridesmaid and talking it out. She was just frustrated all the planning was going to go to “waste” for the time being and took it out on the wrong people. She’s going to call my Maid/Matron of Honor and apologize, and we’re going to have a little Hurricane Irene party at her condo tomorrow night with some girlfriends to keep each other company. Thanks for the great advice 🙂