(Closed) Not sure how to handle girl drama

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Pick up the phone and call her. Your first mistake was writing an email to her addressing the issue. You should have picked up the phone then. She’s clearly pretty hurt that you insinuated that she lied, and I would be too. I feel like you created this drama out of nothing but facebook pictures. If she said she was with her sister, you should have taken her word for it, not accuse her of lying. 

Post # 4
Member
3303 posts
Sugar bee

She is an adult and she made the adult choice to “unfriend” you than talk to you. Move on. Based on your previous conversation and how she reacted about the address, don’t waste any more time on this.

Post # 6
Member
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You say you shouldn’t have to say you’re sorry. Well, you did do a few things wrong but, even of you hadn’t, sometimes it’s about being the bigger person. 

You shouldn’t have sent her a big long message. Face to face, you could have said something in passing like, “Hey, did your sister end up coming down? I was looking at the adorable pictures you posted and didn’t see her. How is she doing?”  It shouldn’t have been more than a passing word. By sending her a long message, you made it into a big deal. By doing it online, you risked  being misunderstood. 

Your second mistake was involving another friend because you were too uncomfortable to talk to your own friend. It’s one thing to have a go-between to help with wedding planning. It’s another to use a third party to do something you know you should do. Your friend picked up on that and reacted. 

Be the bigger person and apologise, offer to take her out to lunch, and have face to face convos from here on out

Post # 7
Member
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hate to say this, but it generally just sounds like she doesn’t want to be your friend anymore, she didn’t bother to read your message, cancelled out on plans and even hearing about your getting married didn’t want anything to do with it or you, and she unfriended you on fb.

Post # 9
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643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I wouldn’t stress it. Clearly she doesn’t want to come to your wedding. If she did she would have given her address and not unfriended you. I’d let that one go.

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