(Closed) My parents are so inconsiderate sometimes. Vent!!!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

That is so unfair of them!  Honestly I wish I knew a better way of handling it but I don’t.  In my early teens my mother made such a big deal about my weight (even sent me to a shrink!) that it actually drove me into disordered eating and sneaking around so I could stuff my face with MORE food.  I now look back on photos of myself at the time now and my jaw drops because I look totally. utterly. normal.  By the time I had a BMI of 40+ five or so years later I would have killed to be that weight away.  Parents always want to do the best for us but sometimes have a funny way of showing it.  Hang in there, ignore them and know that you WILL look gorgeous on your wedding day!

Post # 5
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669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My mom in particular does the same thing — talking how we both need to lose weight before the wedding and asking how goes my eating/gym. I ordered my dress the size I needed when I went to get it. They asked if I planned to lose weight and I said “planning and doing are two different things, I probably won’t end up losing any.” I wanted to be safe. It’s now 6 months later and I’m the same weight… I do want to lose it, but its very hard with my medical issues… but yet my mom harps on about it.

So yea, I feel you. I just tell my mom, “its fine, don’t worry about it” and move on.

Post # 6
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905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It’s so funny that I ran across this thread. I literally JUST texted my Fiance with the crap my mother just said to me. I told her that Fiance and I were driving out to the county to get some Chinese food and go to this really popular drive-in ice cream place. “Wow! That diet of yours has really gone to shit, eh?!”.

So, I feel you. I lost 40 lbs and when I went to try on my wedding dress you could definitely tell that it was now too big. Her response that I could always lose more. My Future Mother-In-Law was mortified when my mother said this to me and she actually defended me saying I looked great and happy.

You will be beautiful on your wedding day. Whether your arms jiggle a little, your armpit flab spills over your dress, your dress is a size 20 instead of a 2; WHO CARES?! At the end of the day you are marrying a man who has/will see you at every phase of your life. A beautiful bride is a happy bride! 🙂

P.S- I would kill to be a size 6. Heck, I would kill to be under a size 20.

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