- 8 years ago
We are only having our siblings kids at the wedding – no other kids.
My cousin called my sister to find out if his daughter was invited because “he couldn’t tell” from the invitation (addressed to him and his wife, RSVP card stated “2 seats are reserved in your honor”. Um – yeah.
So, my sister told him that kids WERE going to be there and then called me.
I was at work and very annoyed this came up and told her I needed to call her back.
After I calmed down (vented to the hive) and called her back (maybe 20-ish minutes had passed) – I told her that I would call my cousin back and explain. But, instead, she told me she already talked to him and told him. But, I didn’t get a chance to explain that it was only nephews and nieces and no one else. She told me the cousin seemed really upset and I asked her if she thought I should call him and re-explain and she said yes.
Well – then the weekend passed and the more I thought about it, the more I decided what she told him was sufficient and it didn’t need a phone call from me (especially when he called her in the first place). I was also reminded that i wasn’t invited to his weekend, which sealed the deal for me (to not call).
Two weeks later – my sister asks if I ever called my cousin. I say “no”. And she gets on my case about it – telling me that she told him I’d call him. (I don’t understand how this is possible since she supposedly talked to him before I talked to her.) – but she insists it is.
I told her that I had decided not to call him and now she’s hounding me to call him because she told him I would.
I just got an email from her telling me that if I hadn’t called him – that she would (since she told him that I’d call him).
My question is this:
1. Should I let my sister handle it (keep in mind, she didn’t like my choice to not let my cousin’s daughter come to the wedding and told me how I didn’t understand because I wasn’t a parent. Um, thanks.
2. Should I call my cousin and explain why we are not having kids?
I kind of just want my sister to stay out of it – although, she was brought into it. I think she’s making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be, which is why I’d rather have her out of it. I also feel bossed around by her (by her telling me and then checking up on me to call my cousin). Maybe I should just say – yes, please call – thanks for handling it.
UGH – ideas/advice, etc?