Post # 1
so recently my fiance received a wedding invitation from one of his friends (who’ve i’ve met on several occasions) it was enveloped to the both of us, but the actual invite came as a shock. the first part indicated that he was invited to the ceremony at 1pm followed by reception dinner etc. then at the bottom in small print, my name was added to attend for photographs at 2pm, but then to make myself scarse until after the reception dinner and to join the dance from 8pm onwards.
bearing in mind that the venue is 2.5 hours drive away, i would have to fill my time for 6 hours in between.
is this generally acceptable or actually a bit rude on the bride’s behalf? i’ve never seen or heard of an invitation like this before in my life.
how would you all deal with this?
Post # 3
@amicelli13: this it weird & rude.
Post # 4
@amicelli13: that is the weirdest invite I’ve ever heard of. I don’t think it’s acceptable.
Post # 5
wow how rude!
what did your fi say about it?
i’d be a bit hurt by it personally. you’ve met them before and its not like you’ve only just got with your man as you’re engaged :S its really odd! i could sort of understand if you had not been together long but i cant see why they’d do this to an engaged couple :S
Post # 6
What were the actual words written regarding what you need to do? Does it actually say you need to make yourself scarce??
I’ve never heard of such a thing. Really strange and very rude.
Post # 7
Um, wow! So basically not only are they too cheap to feed all of their guests, they’re expecting your Fiance to come to the reception dinner and just leave you to figure out dinner on your own?! Please tell me you guys will both be sending your regrets and not attending.
Post # 8
That is strangest and probably one of the rudest invites I have heard of.
Post # 9
@amicelli13: very rude and I’m gonna assume they have issues with budget bc the part they want you to miss is the dinner where (I guess) they are paying per head. Your fiance is going to have to speak to the groom.
Post # 10
What the hell? Rude to say the least! So what ARE you invited to? Photos? Dancing? You are engaged, so therefore you are a package deal. If you aren’t invited to the actual event (bc, I mean really, what the hell…photos?) I wouldn’t even go, and neither would my Fiance. So weird.
Post # 11
Do you know any other couples attending this wedding- I wonder if they did this to all couples and only invited the person they’re closest to- classy!
Post # 12
I too would like to know exactly what the invite says… how strange! I’ve heard of people being invited only to the reception, or even only to the dance part after dinner, but this is new…
Post # 13
Strange! I would definitely not be attending. Photographs and a dance, but no ceremony or dinner? No thanks. How rude.
Post # 14
Hi all. Thanks for the quick replies.
Fiance didn’t even notice and said we’d be happy to attend.. he obviously doesn’t see it as a problem because he understands the reason of guest limit etc.
The words in the invite are:
We (Bride’s parents) request the presence of (guest 1) at the wedding of (Bride&Groom) at 1pm at (venue 1) followed by photos, and then at 4pm at (venue 2) for a sit-down dinner and evening reception.
Although we would love to have (guest 2) attend the whole day, our venue limits this. Therefore we would like to have (guest 2) to be present for photos at 2pm and then for the evening reception at 8pm.
Post # 15
@amicelli13: Are you offended?
Post # 16
Beyond RUDE. I can’t believe these people don’t see a problem with this. I would change my acceptance to regrets. Maybe they think you won’t come.