(Closed) not sure how to interpret this invite…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 137
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Lol reminds me of when my fi went to his mates wedding. I wasn’t invited and told I couldnt go. I was 8months pregnant and ended up sleeping on my sisters sofa. 🙁

Post # 138
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@amicelli13:  WOW. I have never heard of anything like this … EVER!! 

 

You truly are a better person than me because i would have declined in the first place and let Fiance go alone rather than make nice with them, especially now they decide you can go all day instead of just in the evening just because some other people backed out. Makes you wonder if the people that backed out were forced to by their SO because they received the same invite as you eh? 

Good luck at the wedding and hopefully the bride will trip up or something and you can have a little giggle 😉 

Post # 140
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I can see you’re annoyed by this and why, even if you did decide to attend logistics wise what are you suppose to do in between the breaks? It seems more than anything that couple have not thought about this at all, I know the day is the bride and groom’s but to ditch guests for certain parts without so much as a thought is rude. This would be my issue rather than not being invited to all of it because though it’s hard you can understand that’s so difficult to cut down guest lists. I hope you try to enjoy yourself even though the bride/groom have been so rude and if you don’t wanna hang out with them after this then don’t! 

 

Post # 141
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think I can say anything that hasn’t already been said but just to re-iterate…extremely rude!! I think on some level they knew they were being totally inappropriate, hence the last minute invite to the whole day! All I can say is remember this when you come to writing you own invitations – if it’s the groom and your Fiance that are friends then I honestly think you should consider inviting him to the day and his new wife to just the evening – lets see how she feels! I bet she’d kick up an almighty fuss!!! 

I once had a similar situation where I was royally snubbed and then the DAY before invited to a wedding that was 8 hours away – I politely declined. Cool

Post # 142
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

honestly they are probably hoping that you decline and just your SO shows up…

Post # 143
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

If you can’t afford for everyone to attend each part of your wedding (ceremony/dance only invites excluded), then your guest list is too long!  Tell the “happy” couple that you’d be happy to save them money by neither of you atteneding ANY part of the wedding festivities.

Additionally, while being engaged to someone makes you a social package, having been with someone for an extended period of time should do the same, especially if you’ve been with your SO for as long or longer than the couple doing the invites.

Post # 144
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Bumble bee

@amicelli13:  Um people probably backed out because the same thing was done to their SOs

Post # 145
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Newbee

I have no words for the rudeness. I will say there is no way in HELL I would attend to any portion of that fiasco! If my significant other chose to attend, him and I would have some serious issues. If I had my way, I would have accepted on the RSVP, let them pay for the meal and then not attend…Let’s see how they like them apples!

Post # 146
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I read this post and had to chime in.  Firstly a great big giant WTF?!?!?!   Secondly rudest, weirdest, tackiest thing I have ever heard.  I’m so overwhelmed by it I start telling my Fiance.  HE comes up with some funny options for you:

(mean option) both respond yes and then don’t show up.  They’ll still have paid for you.  Haha

(funny option) go buy a large pizza and a six pack of beer and sit next to him at the reception. 

Honestly, I feel like it would have been a lot less rude to invite only him if its a budget issue. This is just unacceptable and rude.  Also, I can’t believe you’re the only one who they did this to, so that’s ridiculous.  

I would not go.  And you better bet neither would Fiance unless this was his best friend and there was a mutual understanding of what a looney the bride was.  

 

Post # 147
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

WTF?! How do you even word something like that?

Post # 148
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Helper bee

@amicelli13:  I PRAY your gift to the bride is an anonymously wrapped copy of an etiquette book … THAT would be a useful gift, it seems! 

You are a better person than me for sure!

Post # 149
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Helper bee

@amicelli13:  I PRAY your gift to the bride is an anonymously wrapped copy of an etiquette book … THAT would be a useful gift, it seems! 

You are a better person than me for sure!

Post # 150
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Helper bee

@amicelli13:  I PRAY your gift to the bride is an anonymously wrapped copy of an etiquette book … THAT would be a useful gift, it seems! 

You are a better person than me for sure!

Post # 151
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Helper bee

Wow, triple post .. Really sorry. My iPad has not been liking the Bee site lately. Embarassed

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